Great Couples Counselling in Clearview, ON. Therapy to heal relationships.

This therapy specializes in couples counseling. We will specifically address your issues, and help you both grow in your relationship, and as individuals. It is an amazing step to reach out for help, and we will work together to let go of the contention, and confrontation. Your lives will transform into mutual understanding and growth. I offer a free consultation, as finding the right therapist is really important. I look forward to helping you move past this difficult time. www.kenwalton.org ken@kenwalton.org 416-659-1617

Couples Counselling Most relationships will become strained at some point and will begin producing maladaptive patterns. Relationship problems are rooted in our distorted egos, insecure attachment, emotional immaturity etc., which create to the many issues that develop for couples - infidelity, financial stress, poor communication, ill health, sexual divergence, household responsibility conflicts, addictions, etc., .... or just simply growing apart. Relationships can often be restored if help is sought soon enough. A counsellor can help reorient perceptions and emotions (how we look at a situation and how we feel about it) and assist the couple in adopting conscious structural changes.

I offer couples the opportunity to explore the root causes of their relationship concerns within a safe, supportive environment. As an objective third party, I am able to facilitate enhanced communication between the couple to help them develop greater objectivity, learn to hear and meet one another’s needs more effectively, and overcome automatic defenses that may be hindering their connection to strengthen and restore their partnership.

We examine the couple relationship, the troublesome differences and the repeating patterns of stress. Effective couples therapy requires commitment and time. Between 12 and 24 sessions is typical for change to occur. While remaining neutral is important , I am biased in favour of the integrity of the relationship. If in the process you decide to end your relationship, it should be a result of your decision, not the outcome of the therapy.

Being in an intimate relationship takes work. It is the relationship in which the highest peaks of both joy and pain can be found. I assist couples in working through the challenges to develop a deeper level of understanding, compassion and connection. My approach to working with couples is to create a safe holding environment in which couples can take risks to share their hopes for their relationship, hear each other and validate the feelings without judgment. I draw from a variety of treatment approaches including Relational Life Therapy.

Couples counselling focusses on enhancing your relationship with your partner. You may do this type of therapy with, or without, your partner. Benefits to your relationship still can come from attending couples sessions on your own, such as, improving communication skills, developing assertiveness, overcoming resentments, improving intimacy, learning new ways to deal with your partner. When attending with your partner: * Learning how each of you are in relationships (early influences, patterns, self-defeating styles) * Increasing self-expression * Learning constructive ways to argue and fight * Better understanding of the each other (who you are really dealing with)

Are you contemplating divorce? Does your spouse want a divorce? Has your relationship reached the breaking point? Are you feeling disrespected, mistrustful? Is your spouse (or yourself) looking outside the marriage? Do you suffer from lack of intimacy or sexual desire? Believe it or not, these are all good signs that you still care and and have the intention to save your marriage, if you could. What if you found a way to make your partner understand your needs and created a relationship that was long-lasting and mutually fulfilling? Divorce Prevention has saved countless families from the harm and permanent aftermath that a divorce could inflict on your life. Even after infidelity.

Our early experiences as children shape some of our attitudes and beliefs towards being in a relationship. Sometimes this modelling can help us in our romantic relationships, other times it can get in the way. Couples counselling can help you both recognize patterns, enhance communications techniques, and find ways to better relate to each other in warm, caring ways. Remember, it takes two to tango.

I have worked with couples for over 7 years. Very often we are attracted to our partner because they have the qualities we don't possess. And we LOVE those things about them! For a while anyway. After a period time, those qualities become the very things that drives us the most crazy. "Why can't you be more like me!", we think to ourselves (or say out loud!). When I work with couples, I explore how our partner holds the very thing we need in ourselves. I help couples find a better way to communicate, as they explore "the elephant in the room" in a safe environment. I provide feedback on what I notice, so they can find new awarenesses and new ways of being with the other.

I use a variety of strategies to help people learn how to nurture and maintain enduring relationships. Using EFT (Emotional Focused Therapy for Couples), along with energetic, cognitive and behavioral strategies, I help people feel, think and act in ways that are most conducive to happiness and harmony in their intimate lives. Often it is more important to repair the process of communication than it is to solve any one issue. Once partners learn how to take care of each other's sensitivities and vulnerabilities, learning to respect rather than change the person they are with, it becomes easier to solve problems and resolve issues.

Find yourself in a rut? Having the same arguments over and over again? Relationships are inherently challenging. While intimate connection feeds some of our deepest human needs, it also confronts our deepest insecurities. From conflict and poor communication to emotional distance and infidelity, the core of many relational issues are often rooted in our own attachment patterns. By assisting couples in moving past the content of their disagreements to the issues that underly them, I help clients to not only address their present concerns, but to transform their way of being in relationship in general.

When we run into problems in our intimate relationships, there is usually a negative pattern that has evolved. This can be painful and undermining to our connection with our partner. My first job is to help you identify and understand this pattern. Then, I will help each of you to unpack the feelings and beliefs underlying it. In the safety of my office, I will help you learn to communicate on a more intimate level. In this way, you can begin to disarm the triggers that lead to misunderstandings. Once again, you will feel you are there for one another. And you will feel a renewed sense of security in the life you share together.

We all want to love, be loved, and connect with our significant others. Yet, it can feel daunting at times, due to repetitive relationship patterns (influenced by our childhood wounding), poor communication skills, cultural/gender differences, and inability to negotiate “me” with “we”. So be it past trauma, poor communication skills, inability to handle stress, different upbringing (thereby different ways of doing things), or sexual challenges, among other things, I help couples identify the areas/habits which challenge them, behaviors which destroy relationships, and anything else that stands in the way of them achieving an intimate connection.