Great Couples Counselling in Oyama, BC. Therapy to heal relationships.

Many couples struggle with communication and "feeling heard". Over time a once happy and vibrant relationship can begin to decay through hurt feelings, anger, lack of attention, feeling valued, infidelity, the strain of children, childhood issues, and much more. We focus to heal the wounds of the past and rebuild the love and trust within the relationship. We work to equip both partners with a voice and ability to effectively listen and hear one another. We will work together to establish individual boundaries within the relationship, while creating a stronger and healthier connection. Our goal is to equip each couple with the tools they require for success, independent of counselling

I work with couples using Gottman Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy and Attachment Therapy. I will help you identify your maladaptive patterns of behaviour and improve your communication skills. There is no shame in getting some coaching in how we connect with each other and how we can better meet each others needs. I use a strengths based approach to help you see the positives and remember why you fell in love.

Relationships are hard at times. Feeling disconnected, seemingly going around in circles, unsure of how to break the cycle can be so distressing, especially when it is with someone you care deeply for. Using the Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) model, I support couples to make sense of where and why they are feeling stuck, the safety to courageously express their needs and emotions, and a renewed feeling of connection to grow together in a more fulfilling way.

Every relationship is unique. It also comes along with it's unique difficulties. Allow each party to express their concerns. Help the Clients see how they can find solutions on their own. This will bode well for their future together. Ask each what they see as essential to having a healthy relationship. If Respect, Trust & Good Honest Communication are not brought up, gently help the Clients to come to those realizations. Do not be judgemental in any way. Offer both a safe & supportive environment to express themselves.

Relationship counselling is for individuals and couples who need to make some changes in their present situation. Distress can be caused by a breakdown in communication, too much conflict, difficulty acknowledging and expressing feelings, sexual problems, family patterns etc. Often our family of origin issues have been activated and we have raw spots in a relationship. As a counsellor I meet with couples individually for their first session (to explore history and listen to their experience of the problem) and then I bring them together. I help create a safe space to be emotionally honest and explore ways to overcome your patterns and find connection.

Couples can benefit from therapy regardless of their marital status. Couples work can involve enhancing communication, exploring intimacy issues, and working towards creating an open, safe, and trusting relationship. Couples therapy can include sessions to address premarital issues, parenting issues, or help a couple to explore a separation. Couples therapy can also help a couple to end a relationship and begin the healing process.

A couple refers to two individuals in a relationship. We live each day as one half of a couple but often we struggle to find a way to maintain who we are, while actively working to be part of a duo. We work with you to establish healthy methods of communication and develop confidence in appropriately articulating what you need, how you experience love, and what is imperative for you to have a supportive, loving relationship.

Have you begun to wonder if there is even hope for your relationship at all? Have your questioned if it's even worth it? Or long forgotten what you and your partner ever saw in each other? You are not alone! And I can assure you, there IS hope! Relationships are like gardens...they never grow well on their own. If yours is hurting, there IS a reason. And I can not only help you find it, I can help you to heal and restore what you both have lost. You have struggled long enough. Let me help you find each other again.

Relationships are hard work! Despite what advertising, movies and other media would have us believe, no relationship is perfect. We all come to our partners with our own histories. Some of our old wounds may already be healed and others less so. By looking at attachment, boundaries and communication, you can improve the quality of your relationship. It can often be as simple as understanding what old hurts we are bringing with us into the relationship that are getting in the way. If you're looking for some help identifying patterns that are no longer serving you, or new ways of moving forward, I can help.

Are you looking to strengthen your relationship with your partner to a level where it is strong and loving? Perhaps you are separated or divorced and struggling with how to co-parent? Louisa works with couples to improve their communication and learn how to work together for the overall success of the family. She works in an unbiased manner so that both members of the couple feel support in a safe environment.

Do you find yourself caught in a negative cycle of interactions with your partner? Are you wanting to reconnect and have more intimacy and joy? Together we can map out your patterns and make the negative cycle the enemy, not the other person. Life is tough enough--our relationships should be our refuge and the place we feel supported and inspired by one another. We can focus on communication, understanding for one another, emotion regulation, boundaries, or how to reconnect meaningfully as a couple.

I understand that navigating relationship issues can be incredibly challenging, affecting both your emotional health and the quality of your partnership. In our couples counselling sessions, we'll establish a safe environment for open dialogue, employing the Gottman Method to identify and address the root causes of your conflicts. This evidence-based approach focuses on improving communication, building empathy, and fostering mutual respect. While the journey to a healthier relationship may take time and commitment from both sides, there's genuine hope for renewal and happiness. Together, we can work towards a more harmonious and fulfilling relationship.

Couples experience a number of challenges that get in the way of optimal relationship functioning. My role is to help families identify how each partner is supporting each other and what patterns are contributing to the “problem”. As a couples therapist, I provide a neutral third party perspective as to these patterns and we can explore the meaning or context behind them. Once we have identified what patterns are impacting the relationship we will develop strategies for more helpful patterns and responses. I utilize therapeutic interventions from the Gottman model, Emotionally-Focused Therapy, Attachment Theory, Response-Based Practice, and Narrative Therapy.

I offer couples therapy based on the Gottman method. The Gottman method is a personalized style of couples therapy based on the relationship work of John Gottman, PhD and Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD. Their method aims to help couples improve communication, address conflict and other relationship problems, develop more understanding and awareness, and foster growth and intimacy. The Gottman method is establish on the belief that problems can either be resolved, or they are perpetual, which means they will be part of your lives forever, in some form or another.” Using this method, I will help you developing better communication styles and the skills to manage perpetual problems.

For a couple, therapy can be a significant source of support, whether for couples who are just looking for guidance to go through a rough patch or to sift through a few miscommunications or for couples frustrated and about to give up after struggling with major conflicts, communicational issues, infidelity or sexual issues. You don't have to be on the brink of divorce to seek out support. No matter where your relationships stands, take it to the next level.

As a married individual in a long-term relationship, I know how challenging it can be! However your partner is worth the work. By learning how to identify and share your feelings with one another, it can strengthen your relationship and create a bond that will last the toughest of times. Even if it seems your relationship is too far gone to save, if both partners commit to change there can be a path forward to flourishing!

Sol and Robin Menard are trained in using Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). EFT is reasearch proven to have a 75-90% success rate with couples. It is one of two therapies for working with couples that is approved of by the American Psychological Association. There are many benefits to undergoing couples therapy using the EFt model. Benefits include: increased closeness/emotional intimacy, increased sexual intimacy, ability to communicate and express feelings and needs, increased safety, increased trust, more flexibility in the relationship, less fears of abandonment, and overall peace and security.

Our passion is supporting relationships! We are skilled and passionate in supporting marriages / relationships by understanding the context of the relationship and what the concerns/issues are. We also understand couples often need support in identifying the deeper meaning or deeper assessment of the concerns. We offer an individualized approach to each couple and family. We utilize Gottman, Systemic Family Therapy and other dignity informed approaches.

How the times have changed! How the expectations of couple life have changed. Partners now expect, as they should an equal voice, and an equal place in their relationship. And that is only the beginning of the beginning! Yet most of us know that this is a most magical relationship when it works. I can attest to that! But maybe, just maybe it isn't so complicated. Maybe the key is an honest, clear and agreed covenant. An statement about who we each are, what we each need but most critically what we can each provide our partner. A covenant that speaks not only to who we are but how we will be with each other. Love you see is an action word. Come chat and consider renewing your covenant!

I work with communication between couples as well as the individual self talk that is sometimes a factor underlyubg discord. Recognizing Anger and Guilt as valuable emotions that can act as 'warning lights on the dashboard', I help uncover the deeper root feelings that are often more vulnerable but also more grounding and connecting. Using a Debriefing flow sheet based on Nonviolent Communication, a model authored by Marshall Rosenberg, I help couples to identify the things that are really important to them and reconnect with a sense of clarity, understanding and compassion for themselves and each other.

The heart and soul of any relationship is the foundation upon which it is built. I work from a neuroscience and attachment based perspective and implement strategies that are immediate, effective and easy to implement. While I am the expert of what I do, you are the expert of your relationship. I join with you to create and modify a treatment plan that fits into your existing world - both as unique individuals and as a unit.

Our training includes the Gottman Model for couples therapy, which is well-grounded in research. Couples learn how to rebuild their friendship, communicate in a way that does not make the conflict worse, and build emotional intimacy. Relationships are like plants; if we forget to feed the plant every day, it starts to wilt and will eventually die. Indeed, with the demands of our daily lives, our relationships tend to take a back seat - at first, our relationships seem to endure; however, over time, the lack of priority starts to show. We will give you the tools and skills needed to feel satisfied in how you communicate with your spouse, and increase your commitment to one another.

The challenges couples face, including difficulty communicating, conflict, trust issues, blended families and work rotations can precipitate significant relationship distress. Support in addressing these issues can have a signifiacant positive impact on overall relationship functioning. The fact that relationships are one of our primary coping mechanisms multiplies the potential distress when these are present as it impacts the very mechanisms we use to cope.

Couples counselling focuses on developing strong communication skills, conflict resolution techniques, forgiveness, and effective dialogue. Many couples experience frustration at some point in their relationship where they feel they are not heard, valued or even loved any more. A toxic cycle of blaming, fighting and pulling away begins to form, creating distance and fatigue. For others an affair has shaken the very core of the safety and love they once felt in their relationship. It can be an agonizing and terrifying discovery for the partner who has been betrayed, and strong feelings of guilt, shame and a lack of understanding to how it even happened for the offending partner. Whether you are looking for a tune up to build back the excitement and...(view profile to read more)

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php