Grief and Loss Counselling in Oyama, BC.

Loss of relationship like any loss has significant emotional consequences and can have impacts across the life spectrum. The fact that relationships are one of our primary coping mechanisms multiplies the potential distress. Processing and Resolving relationship loss can lead to significant better quality of life as well as significantly improved quality of future relationships.

Losing a friend or family member can be devastating no matter the circumstances. We can also experience pain from losing a pet, a job or the ending of a relationship. Regardless of what kind of grief or loss you are struggling with, I will support you in facing your pain and finding a way forward. I will help you to understand the process and stages of grief and make sense of it. When we come to make meaning out of our loss our pain is lessened. I will also help you find peace and acceptance.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of grief & loss through the lens of innovation----instead of growing the same neural networks responsible for the pain in weekly therapy sessions, we reset the brain to move forward quicker and efficiently by working on the stuck limbic system so as to empower the person with more success and traction. For no one wants to stay in a grief mode for too long; but when you don’t include the brain in your work with someone, you risk describing the water to them while they drown and calling it success. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Everyone at some point in their lives will have to grieve. Dealing with grief and loss is different for everyone and dependent on our relationship with the deceased, our religious beliefs, and our previous experiences with death. The pain we experience can be overwhelming and some people need additional support. We understand the wide range of emotions and behaviours associated with grief and will be with you every step of the way.

While each person's way of grieving may be unique; as humans, we will all experience it. And while it is so painful at times, grief helps us to accept and understand what the loss means for us, so that we can create new meaning around it. Along the way, people may find themselves feeling stuck or lost - and this is where counselling can help. My understanding of attachment theory, emotionally focused therapy, and the human experience provides a map to guide us through, together. We all suffer in life, but suffering is made more tolerable when we don't have to do it alone.

There are several tasks of grieving that a person must go through. Sometime our grief is complex grief (being hurt by another person or being responsible for the loss ourselves.) It does not matter how early in the grieving process that you seek help, EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) will receive the excess emotional pain and speed up the process of grief.

Grief affects us all differently. Together we'll work through how you are affected. There is no timeline on grief, and no right or wrong way to move through it. Using tools from dialectical behaviour therapy, combined with humanism and Rogerian reflection, I can help provide some structure to the confusion of loss and mourning. Hurt is a natural part of loss and we'll approach it as such.

Grief and loss can be overwhelming, confusing and debilitating. There are often overpowering feelings of sadness,fear, anxiety, guilt and anger as well as thoughts and stories that we tell ourselves and others tell us. Sometimes there are other people to support and many responsibilities beyond the work of grieving that seem to preclude the possibility of meeting our own needs for personal support. I use reflection and empathy in a person centered approach to create a haven of safety that facilitates a sense of clarity and self connection in the journey of grief.

When we are facing grief and loss, there is often a complex web of emotions and many layers of meaning-making to encounter in our healing process. The path is never linear. The timeline requires sensitivity and nuance. Compassion, patience and the ability to hold seemingly contradictory feelings are paramount. With gentle presence, we can hold the magnitude and the subtleties of this experience moving step by step towards healing. In addition to grief counselling, I offer EMDR and other trauma processing approaches to support you in your healing when appropriate.

If you have lost someone, I offer a compassionate and supportive space to explore your unique experience of loss. Listening carefully to your story, there's an opportunity to identify and honour your feelings, your memories and your relationship. Through gentle conversation and questions, there's a chance to rewrite your grief story, discover strengths, attend to resilience and find meaning amidst your pain. You can begin to acknowledge what you've been through while promoting healing, growth, a continued bond with the one who has passed and learning to live with loss

Grief counseling helps people cope with grief and mourning following the loss of a loved one or due to major life changes that trigger feelings of grief (i.e. job loss or divorce). It provides a space for individuals to work through and process the complex emotions surrounding loss. Healthy grieving results in remembering the loss with a newfound sense of peace, rather than searing pain.

We experience grief throughout our lives. For a person who is dealing with grief or loss, individual or group therapy can provide support that is most beneficial. Louisa provides a safe environment via individual or group therapy. She shares information and tools that are helpful to those who have a recent or historical loss. In identifying issues that are related to our loss we can start to then move to the process of acceptance and further understanding.

When losing someone or something important to us, it can take lots time to adjust and learn to live our life without that person, thing or way of life. Either it is the death of a loved one, loss of a relationship, loss of a pet, loss of a job or important possessions, change to your way of life, grieving is a normal response to a life event and bottling it up can create damage or even harm to a person. It can take time to adjust and accept to learn to live life without that person, thing or way of life. When it gets too challenging or overwhelming, or if it gets in a way of living a healthy life, sometimes turning to professional support can help getting through this challenging event.