Anger Management and Counselling in Malahide, ON.

Anger is a strong and tough emotion. When used in an unproductive way, anger can harm our inner world and sense of self-esteem (i.e. self-criticism, self-injury), and harm our relationships (i.e. blaming, criticism, aggression, inflexibility). However, when this feeling is used in a healthy way, it can help us by alerting us that boundaries may have been crossed or that we may have some thoughts to challenge. It can also help to motivate us and help us to be assertive. We can work together to get a handle on anger and harness that energy in healthy, helpful ways.

Events in your life do not cause you to be angry. Anger is your response to those events, and I can help you change your response by changing your thinking! I can help you deal better with underlying stress. I can teach you relaxation methods, and I can teach you the techniques of mindfulness to lessen the hold of difficult thoughts and feelings have on you.

Are you finding it difficult to manage your anger? Anger is often a result of loosing your sense of control, feeling frustrated, or being blocked from something that is important to you. Psychotherapy can help you develop better self-understanding, reduce stress, cultivate better judgement, develop your communication skills, and increase empathy and connection with those around you.

I use a combination of Narrative, Solutions Focused, and Emotion Focused therapy to help clients address the underlying pain informing feelings of anger. Clients can experience anger getting the way of important relationships or preferred outcomes. Sometimes anger has been an adaptive and helpful response for clients in the past, and one that they want to choose to live with and respond to a little differently now. I aim to help you understand the causes and subsequent triggers in order to better respond when these feelings arise. Book a consult to see if we would be the right fit.

Emotions serve a very important purpose, they help guide us, but all too often they get ignored, pushed aside, or asked to take a back seat. I believe it is important to have a space where our emotions can be understood, explored, and validated. Anger is often the result of emotions that have been denied, misunderstood, and shut down. My approach to emotion regulation and anger management is to help build our understanding of what these emotions are trying to tell us, learn to use this information in valuable beneficial ways, and build on resilience and coping strategies to assist in improving interpersonal relationships.

After four decades as a therapist, I find anger management is still not fully understood. Yes you need to manage your anger. But it’s early childhood experience which has hurt you - hardened you to avoid, dismiss or shove inside any anger: both the Constructive as well as Destructive types. That becomes a false shortcut - as feeling inside for which is which in the moment is a key to healthy assertion. Balance is what we need. In the model I use for working with anger, you can learn first to shift what tends to happen in a present unhappy situation. We’ll then help you distinguish how your past started that pattern. You’ll be able to balance yourself, both in anger and conflict resolution.

We all experience anger, it is a normal feeling that helps us move forward and beyond unhealthy situations. However when anger becomes our first response and results in violence or the loss of family and friends, you need to rebalance your feelings. I will help you understand your own anger and develop tools to manage your triggers and reactions. Learning to talk through your feelings before you explode can be healing and helpful in your relationships. Learning to control your outbursts will bring you closer to family and friends as well as improve your career.

Anger is a natural emotion that everyone experiences and should not be viewed as negative but an essential emotion to understand who you are. When anger starts to impact your life negatively it is typically displayed in the way you manage behaviourally and mentally through situations. In therapy, the individual will determine the triggers for the anger, develop healthy coping mechanisms, and record their successes. In essence turning a lion into a kitten.

There are many reasons why people get angry. Being able to feel angry is normal and healthy. However, how people respond to anger determines if they are being appropriate or not. Through anger management counselling, I can help you understand the source of your anger, how to respond to anger effectively and appropriately, and how to enjoy your life is such a way that your feelings serve to communicate awareness of your environment versus controlling your thoughts and behaviour. Through counselling you can become "in control" versus being controlling. I can help you to resolve conflict effectively and to express yourself assertively versus passively or aggressively.

We start by identifying your anger triggers & things you have to be angry about. We identify your anger style, including behaviours you engage in when angry. We identify where anger happens in your body & work to help you start to see clues when your anger is starting to manifest. We help you improve your emotional language and vocabulary. We identify new ways you might react to anger. We will explore together your anger process, including analyzing instances when you were angry, the thoughts you had, the related feelings, & the behaviour you engaged in as a result. We will talk about "anger up, anger down," identifying the things you say to yourself that either increases or decrease anger.

Anger is a normal and important emotion that provides us with clues about emotions, thoughts, experiences, and behaviours that need to be explored and understood. Anger is a secondary emotion which means that there are often softer more vulnerable emotions that lie beneath the experience and expression of anger. In the context of a safe and non-judgemental counselling relationship, you can begin to explore the roots of your anger, understand how your anger has likely acted to protect you in may situations, and learn new strategies and tools to express all emotions, including anger, in a more effective and helpful way.

Anger typically provides a great deal of energy. Sometimes it can fuel us to stand up and say “no” to unfair treatment. However, it can also translate into aggression that can hurt the ones we love and care about, including ourselves. Therapy can be an opportunity to identify the emotions or reasons underlying the anger so we can better communicate when boundaries have been crossed and needs have not been met. Techniques to soothe oneself, exert energy in a positive way and conflict resolution skills are typical directions for therapy. This may improve your relationships with others and yourself, so you can lead a more contented life.

Anger is an essential emotion. It lets us know what is important. Sometimes, the intensity of anger can be upsetting. Anger management is more about anger awareness. Learning how to manage intense feelings is helpful in both family and work environments. By becoming aware of seemingly insignificant triggers, you can avoid an very significant outburst. Counselling can help you transform anger as the enemy to anger as your ally.

Emotions can run deep and overwhelm our system. Anger, in particular, is one what tends to come fast and flood our system. Anger is often learned in our early life and we hold onto the lessons of this. The good news is that we can unburden ourselves from the hurt anger is often holding which can free you from this cycle. If anger is impacting your life, we can help. Contact us and we can work with you to start this change.

Anger is a natural emotion for all humans, but we can find ourselves sometimes overwhelmed with more anger than we feel we can handle, where we realize that we are out of balance and cannot seem to control our behaviour. As a therapist, I can support you through this experience, with an approach of compassion and lack of judgment, to understanding the origin of the anger and replacing it with a healthy balance of emotional expression.

Anger is a natural emotion and everyone experiences anger at one point or another. It can become problematic if expressed in an aggressive and irrational manner. I assist my clients by guiding them to regulate their anger and behaviour, gain self-awareness to feel more in control of themselves and their emotions, which in turn lead them to have improved relationships and express their anger in a constructive manner.

Many of us grew up in families where we were told to rate our emotions as positive or negative. Positive emotions were love, joy, and compassion. Negative emotions were sadness, fear, anger, and rage. Unfortunately, anger got placed in the harmful emotion category for many of us, which is not where it belongs. Anger is a helpful emotion that strengthens our resolve to set healthy limits in our relationships. Anger helps us communicate what we need from others. Psychotherapy is a space where you can learn the positive attributes of anger and how to express it positively and safely. Let's get together and explore some of these healthier options for this vital emotion!

I have worked in a group setting with men who have power and control issues. I believe in safety in families, and compassion for all. The work starts with taking responsibility for our actions and the effects they have on others. I believe people are capable of change and therapy can be an invitation to growth in responsibility, empathy and behaviour change. I would address the emotional root of the problem and help you understand why anger leads to aggression.

If you have had a history of explosive, aggressive outbursts that are out of proportion with the stressors around you, you might benefit from anger management counseling. I can help you decrease the overall intensity and frequency of angry feelings, and increase your ability to recognize an appropriately express angry feelings as they occur. You will develop an awareness of current angry behaviors, clarifying origins of and alternatives to aggressive anger. You will come to an awareness and acceptance of angry feelings while developing better control and more peace.