Anger Management and Counselling in Aylmer, ON.

We all experience anger, it is a normal feeling that helps us move forward and beyond unhealthy situations. However when anger becomes our first response and results in violence or the loss of family and friends, you need to rebalance your feelings. I will help you understand your own anger and develop tools to manage your triggers and reactions. Learning to talk through your feelings before you explode can be healing and helpful in your relationships. Learning to control your outbursts will bring you closer to family and friends as well as improve your career.

Anger management is about anger understanding first. Why are we angry? I will help clients' seeking assistance with anger by creating a safe space to explore the anger, to process it, and understand it. We can't seek to manage it if we don't understand what is really happening for us. Through pattern exploration of experiences with anger, we can process and navigate the emotion and work together to manage it.

Anger presents in various forms and can range in intensity within and between individuals. When working with clients who see anger as a barrier in their lives, I strive to work together to gain an understanding of where the anger comes from, determine its different features and triggers, and explore the possible ways that you can feel more in control over this experience. Please contact me for a free consultation to learn more about my approach and to determine if we would be a good fit.

Anger typically provides a great deal of energy. Sometimes it can fuel us to stand up and say “no” to unfair treatment. However, it can also translate into aggression that can hurt the ones we love and care about, including ourselves. Therapy can be an opportunity to identify the emotions or reasons underlying the anger so we can better communicate when boundaries have been crossed and needs have not been met. Techniques to soothe oneself, exert energy in a positive way and conflict resolution skills are typical directions for therapy. This may improve your relationships with others and yourself, so you can lead a more contented life.

: We all have a right to feel and express our anger and yet sometimes anger can alienate us from the things we care about most, such as friends and family. We can also often feel judged because of the way we express our anger and this can make it harder to manage. In my work with individuals who experience anger, I provide a safe, supportive and non-judgmental space to begin to understand anger and learn new ways of expressing it. Reach out today to schedule a free 15-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit.

Anger is an essential emotion. It lets us know what is important. Sometimes, the intensity of anger can be upsetting. Anger management is more about anger awareness. Learning how to manage intense feelings is helpful in both family and work environments. By becoming aware of seemingly insignificant triggers, you can avoid an very significant outburst. Counselling can help you transform anger as the enemy to anger as your ally.

After four decades as a therapist, I find anger management is still not fully understood. Yes you need to manage your anger. But it’s early childhood experience which has hurt you - hardened you to avoid, dismiss or shove inside any anger: both the Constructive as well as Destructive types. That becomes a false shortcut - as feeling inside for which is which in the moment is a key to healthy assertion. Balance is what we need. In the model I use for working with anger, you can learn first to shift what tends to happen in a present unhappy situation. We’ll then help you distinguish how your past started that pattern. You’ll be able to balance yourself, both in anger and conflict resolution.

Events in your life do not cause you to be angry. Anger is your response to those events, and I can help you change your response by changing your thinking! I can help you deal better with underlying stress. I can teach you relaxation methods, and I can teach you the techniques of mindfulness to lessen the hold of difficult thoughts and feelings have on you.

While anger management programs are helpful, most never get to the root of the individual's personal issues or triggers. I work with both men and women to realize learned behaviour and personal belief systems that continue to cause problems. I will work with you on your own individual triggers that lead to anger and help you learn how to better identify and change the thoughts and feelings that are leading to the angry behaviour.

I have worked in a group setting with men who have power and control issues. I believe in safety in families, and compassion for all. The work starts with taking responsibility for our actions and the effects they have on others. I believe people are capable of change and therapy can be an invitation to growth in responsibility, empathy and behaviour change. I would address the emotional root of the problem and help you understand why anger leads to aggression.

Anger is an emotion that all of us experience. But when it goes out of control it can damage you and people around you. Through psychotherapy, we can see what needs and emotions lie beneath the anger so that you can learn to manage your anger better and express yourself in an assertive and confident way. Please reach out today to learn how I can support you.

A.M. is mainly a misnomer: “anger” is a natural emotion and normal response to real or imagined injury/threats. It can support our making and keeping essential personal boundaries. Such anger is usually short-lived. Anger that results in impulsive harmful abusive acts and lasts, is better described as rage. Rage stems from severe early life traumas: extensive abandonment, need deprivation, violence, sexual abuse, chronic chaos, likely combined with individual vulnerability factors. Some programs and self-help may not successfully address rage.Depending on degree of self-awareness, motivation, capacity for self-regulation and taking responsibility, this problem can be helped by psychotherapy

Anger is a powerful and natural emotion, yet it can feel like a wildfire when it spirals out of control. While anger itself isn’t inherently bad, unchecked anger can strain relationships, damage self-esteem, and lead to regret. It often masks deeper emotions such as hurt, fear, or frustration. Anger management therapy helps you peel back the layers of your anger to understand its roots. Is it unmet needs? Unresolved pain? Miscommunication? Together, we’ll examine the patterns and triggers that ignite your anger and identify healthier ways to respond. Therapy also focuses on learning techniques to calm your body and mind.