Anger Management and Counselling in Streetsville, ON.

Anger is a natural emotion, but when it becomes overwhelming or hard to control, it can harm relationships, work, and overall well-being. In anger management counselling, I provide a supportive, non-judgmental space to explore the underlying causes of anger, such as stress, unresolved hurt, or unmet needs. Together, we identify triggers, develop healthy coping strategies, and practice effective communication skills to express feelings constructively. My approach blends evidence-based techniques with emotional awareness, helping clients reduce reactivity, improve self-control, and build more positive, respectful connections in their personal and professional lives.

Therapy with me can help transform the way you understand and experience anger. Anger is not something to fear or suppress; it is a signal, a message asking us to pay attention to what may be hurting or blocking us. Together, we explore the root causes of your anger with curiosity and compassion, uncovering the “why” behind it and what it is trying to tell you. In this safe space, you’ll learn how to acknowledge and manage your anger without being controlled by it, and how to initiate the process of healing what lies beneath. This journey enables greater self-awareness, healthier self-expression, and more meaningful relationships.

Many of us grew up in families where we were told to rate our emotions as positive or negative. Positive emotions were love, joy, and compassion. Negative emotions were sadness, fear, anger, and rage. Unfortunately, anger got placed in the harmful emotion category for many of us, which is not where it belongs. Anger is a helpful emotion that strengthens our resolve to set healthy limits in our relationships. Anger helps us communicate what we need from others. Psychotherapy is a space where you can learn the positive attributes of anger and how to express it positively and safely. Let's get together and explore some of these healthier options for this vital emotion!

People come for psychotherapy to my downtown Toronto practice in order to help them manage feelings of extreme anger and other painful emotions, as well as difficulties being able to be assertive without become excessively aggressive. Sometimes these psychological challenges are recent developments, but sometimes they represent lifelong struggles coping with difficult feelings.

The use of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is something that many anger management therapies incorporate. By trying to get a patient to open up about their emotions and feelings and being driven to accomplish a specific task (in this case controlling anger), a person can see positive results in their behaviour. By slowing down our thoughts, we can catch ourselves when anger presents itself and choose an alternate course of action, more in line with our goals.

Anger is often a secondary feeling and it is important to learn to identify and process the underlying feelings. As a primary feeling anger helps us know when something isn't right and is the energy behind setting appropriate boundaries and enacting change. Our therapists are trained to support you in learning to identify and process anger in a healthy way that improves your relationships and emotional health.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Are you looking for support related to anger management? If you struggle to regulate your emotions, communicate in your relationships, or control your behaviours, I am here to help. Together we will work to create an individualized treatment plan aimed at reducing your discomfort and developing your emotional regulation and communication skills. This work will take place in an honest and authentic space, validating your experience while keeping you accountable to your therapeutic goals.

If you struggle with managing anger, you may also be struggling with other issues as well. Anger is the response that others see to the hurt, pain and frustration underneath that is wreaking havoc in both your physical and emotional worlds. The most effective way that we can manage anger is to begin to understand it, and address these underlying problems. Anger does not allow for us to live the way that we want to; it takes over the moment that we become triggered. We can regain control of our reactions once we deal with those underlying issues. Together we will take a nonjudgmental approach in exploring how anger has impacted you, and the behaviours that you want to move towards.

In today’s cultural environment we have been taught to avoid anger as it is undesirable and needs to be tamed or suppressed. I believe that anger is an emotion that needs to be understood. Anger is a signal that something in our lives calls for attention. I won’t attempt to suppress or eradicate your anger. Instead, we'll lean into understanding its origins, your triggers, and the messages it has for you.

In counselling for anger management, my therapeutic approach is deeply rooted in understanding emotions and their connection to anger responses. I create a supportive and non-judgmental environment where clients can explore the underlying emotional triggers that lead to anger. By delving into the core emotions that fuel their anger, such as hurt, fear, or frustration, we work together to develop healthier ways of expressing and managing these feelings. Through this process, clients gain valuable insights into their emotional experiences, enabling them to reframe their anger and cultivate more constructive coping strategies.

Anger is often thought of as a negative emotion, but I like to think of Anger as the part of you that loves you and wants to stand up for you when you’ve experienced something “unfair.” Anger does not always make the best decisions about when to stand up for you, so I work collaboratively with clients to identify and explore how anger shows up in their lives, and to strengthen and develop strategies to minimize the impact it has on living the life you want to live. Book a free consultation to learn more about my approach and explore if we are a good fit.

Anger is an emotion like any other emotion. When channelled in a healthy way, anger can be a great motivator, and it can be an appropriate response to injustice. On the other hand, anger can be very destructive. Anger pushes people away, it alienates those who are close to you, it controls others (and yourself), and it can be abusive. Anger is typically the way we have learned to express deeper emotions, our core emotions. These emotions include: hurt, sadness and fear. If you attend one-on-one counselling with me or one of my associates, you will learn the following: communicate your core feelings; recognize your body warning signs; change your thinking; and relax!

When we experience recurrent anger that feels overwhelming and overpowering, we can find ourselves feeling out of control and ashamed. Through self-exploration, we can start to uncover the underlying emotions that are fueling the anger as anger tends to show up when something deeper within us needs attention and processing, often emotions that stem from past experiences, unmet needs, or ignored boundaries. By working to identify the root causes of our anger, we can begin to understand them in a more meaningful and productive way, since processing buried emotions, or unexpressed needs can be incredibly healing. Over time, this awareness can also help to transform how we relate or react to ang

Art therapy and counselling support safe exploration of anger as a meaningful emotional response rather than something to suppress or control. Together, we work to understand how anger shows up in the body, what needs or boundaries it may be pointing to, and how it is expressed in relationships. Creative and somatic approaches can support regulation, awareness, and the development of alternative ways to respond to anger in order to experience more fulfilment in your relationships.

I have spent hundreds of hours working with clients who struggle with managing anger/rage. There are specific, step-by-step techniques that can be taught, that are very effective at helping people deal with this issue. Based on reports from clients I have worked with, I have found that if clients are committed to their process, most people make significant improvement within 6-12 sessions. Drawing from polyvagal theory, AEDP and mindfulness techniques, clients can learn healthy ways to manage and experience their anger.

Anger has a lot to do with repressed fear. If we don't allow fear to be released we tend to take our anger out on the people closest to us. Certain situations will trigger us if we don't know how to control our anger if we aren't dealing with underlying issues. Often if we are not consciously working on dealing with managing our anger it doesn't just go away by itself. Simply having someone to talk to and listen to us helps alleviate a lot of our understanding about why we are angry. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is a very beneficial modality to consciously put anger in check. Having a safe environment to share your thoughts and let go of your feelings is another way to release anger.

One of the most common complaints I hear from parents is that their child never listens. “No matter what it is they just don’t hear me. I yell and scream and plead but it’s like I am talking to a brick wall.” Most of the time the way the message is delivered is more important than the message itself. Adults and children alike tend to close themselves off from loud and intrusive tones of voice. I help parents understand that perhaps the best way to get their kids to listen and behave is by first changing their attitudes towards the situation. Engaging in a parenting paradigm shift is a great way to start their journey and I can help with this process.

Anger is a normal human emotion–an essential part of being–something hard-wired and adaptive. It motivates us to take action, keeps us aware, and can bring us to self-reflection. It is a form of communication expressing our true inner feelings. For some, anger becomes an overwhelming, well-engrained, unhealthy habit; a maladaptive, go-to defense mechanism that disrupts communication and paradoxically masks true inner feelings of vulnerability. It takes courage to challenge. But through psychotherapeutic, CBT-based intervention, I take pride in working to help adults unpack the pain, find acceptance through understanding, and seize new coping strategies that will serve them productively.

Anger is a difficult emotion to control once it gets started. Stopping anger is like stopping a runaway train after it has a full head of steam. Managing one of the most powerful emotions takes preparation, awareness and containment skills. I have personally written the book on the Eight Steps to Conquering Chronic Anger. It is used monthly at our centre in anger management classes. Anger can be conquered!

Understanding the roots of your anger can go a long way to empowering you to respond in ways that best suit the situation, leaving you feeling satisfied and content, rather than reacting in ways that feel the most relieving in that moment but leave you regretting your behavior, long after the event. I can help you learn to express your feelings more appropriately and take back the power that anger has had over you in the past.

Anger is one of those big emotions that can be tricky to navigate, especially when you are in the heat of the moment. Difficulty managing anger can sometimes lead to reactions that are hurtful to those that we care about the most. It is important to know that anger is not a bad emotion to experience, we just want to be mindful of how we communicate our anger to ourselves and to others. I hold a non-judgemental and safe space for you to explore your relationship with anger and assist you in working towards displaying anger in a way that is more in line with your preferred way of being. Contact me today to book a free consultation.

Anger can be such a frustrating emotion sometimes leaving us feeling shameful for even feeling that way. Men and women are often taught different messages about anger as they are growing up, impacting our experience and delivery of anger as an adult. Anger is a real and valid emotion, but how we express it can sometimes lead to problems. Let's figure this out together!

I tailor anger management treatment to the unique needs and life situation of each client. What distinguishes my approach is that I do not simply counsel people on how to act, nor do I gloss over the real source of the problem. This would be akin to putting a band-aid over a gaping wound. I know that the only way to effectively make a permanent and recognizable change is to address the root cause of what is fueling a person's rage, explosiveness, and destructive behaviour. I treat people with sensitivity and compassion surrounding their emotional vulnerabilities and difficulties that cause their disruptive affect, which negatively impacts their lives and work collaboratively.

Where is your anger really coming from? Where do you feel it in your body? What sort of rage takes you over and renders you completely out of control? Anger is a complex emotion that is often misunderstood. It is actually a result of profound sadness transformed into a physical and often violent outburst. Working with anger is not just about coping with the events that bring about the response, but digging deep into the cause of the sadness and resultant anger and rushes out of you often unexpectedly. Let's work together to solve this mystery—with the dual goal to lessen the symptoms as well as to find the deeper cause.