Anger Management and Counselling in Madoc, ON.

Anger is a powerful emotion that, when not controlled or understood, can get in the way of maintaining and building the relationships that are important to us in our lives. So often under those all-encompassing feelings of anger are other feelings that have been buried - perhaps deeper feelings of sadness. Working on issues of anger in therapy is about building an understanding of what our deeper issues are and of working toward coping with our feelings, resolving our issues, and finding more healthy ways to express ourselves in the world.

Anger is a normal human emotion–an essential part of being–something hard-wired and adaptive. It motivates us to take action, keeps us aware, and can bring us to self-reflection. It is a form of communication expressing our true inner feelings. For some, anger becomes an overwhelming, well-engrained, unhealthy habit; a maladaptive, go-to defense mechanism that disrupts communication and paradoxically masks true inner feelings of vulnerability. It takes courage to challenge. But through psychotherapeutic, CBT-based intervention, I take pride in working to help adults unpack the pain, find acceptance through understanding, and seize new coping strategies that will serve them productively.

Understanding the roots of your anger can go a long way to empowering you to respond in ways that best suit the situation, leaving you feeling satisfied and content, rather than reacting in ways that feel the most relieving in that moment but leave you regretting your behavior, long after the event. I can help you learn to express your feelings more appropriately and take back the power that anger has had over you in the past.

I support clients in understanding and expressing anger safely and constructively. Together, we identify triggers, release tension, and develop healthier responses. Clients benefit by improving emotional regulation, strengthening relationships, and feeling more in control, balanced, and empowered in both personal and professional aspects of their lives.

Anger management counselling at Neurodiversity Aware Therapy focuses on understanding how anger develops through patterns of thought, expectation, unmet needs, and experiences of oppression. For many neurodivergent people, anger may emerge from frustration, misunderstanding, or repeated invalidation rather than intentional aggression. Using a structured, collaborative approach, therapy supports clients in identifying triggers, examining assumptions, and developing practical strategies to respond more intentionally, self-advocate, reduce conflict, and improve relationships.

Anger is a completely normal, often healthy human emotion. But if it gets beyond your control, it can be very destructive in your work and interpersonal relationships and can drastically devastate the quality of your life. Fortunately, anger can be 'managed' which is very different than 'suppressing' it. Unexpressed anger leads to a host of other problems including high blood pressure. However, when we learn how to 'manage' our anger, we can learn to diminish both the emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. We can learn to avoid triggers and develop strategies. We can learn how to problem solve, change our thinking and relax our bodies.

We use dialectical behaviour therapy as our main approach to emotion regulation and anger management issues. We will explore skills including distress tolerance, mindfulness, and interpersonal effectiveness to suit your needs in managing emotional distress. It can be helpful to explore the connection between your thoughts, emotions and behaviours in understanding how to restructure our ineffective patterns.

In anger management therapy, I provide a safe and supportive space for you to explore the emotions behind your anger and understand how it affects your life and relationships. Together, we identify triggers, develop healthier coping strategies, and practice constructive ways to express your feelings. My goal is to help you regain control, reduce conflict, and build stronger, more positive connections with the people around you while fostering greater self-awareness and emotional balance.

Anger can feel intense and uncontrollable—but it doesn’t have to take the lead. In therapy, we slow things down to understand what’s really fueling your anger. Together, we’ll explore your triggers, patterns, and the deeper emotions beneath the surface. With proven tools and compassionate support, you can learn to pause, reflect, and choose how to respond—instead of reacting on autopilot.

Anger can be upsetting not only for the one receiving it but also for the one expressing it. Although we can believe that someone "makes" us angry it is usually our own trigger that fires off. We express anger not just because we feel we have a right to be angry but because we use anger as a way of self protection. It says "back off and leave me alone." Understanding your angry pain can free you from it's grip. I have helped many clients with this difficulty through Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and inner child approaches that have proven to be successful in the treatment of anger.

Our experiences of anger vary greatly. While I don't offer therapy services for anger management, at Psychotherapy Collective, our online clinic, we have many therapists who offer support for clients seeking help with anger. Visit our website to schedule a free 15-minute consultation with a therapist who specializes in anger management https://www.psychotherapycollective.ca/areas-of-focus/anger

Anger management is a series of preventative and reactionary steps that help us regulate our emotions. While anger management is about executing these skills, the successful implementation depends on a foundational understanding of what anger is and how it operates in one’s life. Without understanding angers unique roots for each individual, anger management techniques become especially challenging to implement. My approach to anger management involves establishing a foundational understanding of anger by examining personal underlying fears and needs. With this foundation set, the individual is able to integrate a personal understanding of anger consistently with strategies and techniques.

I don’t treat anger simply as a symptom to be suppressed but as a message from a system that has been ignored, misread, or overwhelmed. Anger often emerges when deeper emotional needs have been chronically unmet — when boundaries have been violated, worth questioned, or safety disrupted. In our work, we don’t aim to “control” anger, but to understand what it protects, what it resents, and what it’s trying to restore. This is not about behavioural compliance — it’s about restoring internal coherence, emotional integrity, and a form of relational strength that doesn’t need to erupt in order to be heard.