Great Couples Counselling in Ottawa, ON. Therapy to heal relationships.

Much of life satisfaction depends on our ability to create and maintain meaningful and mutually satisfying relationships. Our attachments to partners can be a great source of love, comfort, soothing, and pleasure. Emotional, physical, and sexual intimacy together form the cornerstone of couple bonds. The CFIR couple therapist will create safety in the therapeutic environment. He or she will not ‘side’ with any one partner, but instead will explore how emotional, physical, and sexual intimacy has been blocked and how each member in the couple inadvertently may be contributing to the disconnection.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

It is my privilege to have been helping couples of all manner work through relationship difficulties. As an attachment therapist informed by Sue Johnson Phd, and John Gottman Phd., Couples enter into goal directed, evidence based work toward improved attachment and friendship. Couples therapy is non judgement, supportive while also educational. Couples come to counselling looking for "skills", and reduced conflict. This is the focus while also seeking improved friendship and intimacy. It really is a privilege to work with couples and achieve these results.

I have had 5 years of training in Emotionally Focused Therapy an Attachment based modal of therapy that has been shown to be highly effective with many couples. Helping couples understand the issues which are underneath most arguments. By learning about the 'Negative Cycle' clients learn to speak to each other about their attachment needs and to become a real 'team' as they go through life together. In some instances a Psycho-dynamic approach allows a couple to move forward more quickly. Each couple is assessed and the most effective model is used in resolving their issues.

Whether it is a fight over the dishes or over an affair, it is important for a therapist to be able to identify and understand interaction patterns in a relationship. Our counsellors are trained in identifying and understanding interaction patterns between individuals in a relationship. Once couples are able to identify interaction patterns and understand how unwanted interactions develop, they are more able to make the changes they desire . Proper interaction allows each partner to feel heard and avalidated and facilitate forgiveness and restoration.

Couples can often feel disconnected and can have long standing patterns of interaction which feel like they can't move away from, no matter how hard they try. Couples work can help unlock this feeling of 'lock down' and help people understand the pain and fear under the behaviours -their own and their partner's. Through exploring together couples can heal old wounds and begin to feel safe, understood, connected, engaged, and fulfilled bringing vitality back to the relationship.

I am pleased to support you in exploring your relationship as you strive to find more joy and fulfillment with each other or consider decisions, whether coming as a couple or on your own. As a Registered Marriage & Family Therapist I am a relationship specialist with experience with a variety of couples and will tailor my cooperative, strength-based and emotion focused approach to work efficiently with your situation in ways that can help to make the hard things easier. Experience with engaged, married, separated, second family, and military couples. Serving the greater Ottawa area with easy access to the 416 and 417 highways.

Secure connection to others is perhaps the most important aspect of our lives and it can be devastating when the bond between partners breaks down. I practise a form of couples therapy that directly targets that bond, helping the couple to take control of what is happening in the relationship and to create the type of connection where they can both feel safe, valuable and loved.

Providing support for couples' locked in conflict. Learning of their attachment wounds and influences, expectations stemming from childhood allows for greater insight behind the behaviour in their current adult relationship. At the same time improving on their communication style and becoming better active listeners, knowing ways to negotiate and becoming more adept at reaching compromise with your partner. Ensuring a more empathetic and respectful relationship tone can become the new norm.

The couple relationship is a very close and intimate bond between two partners. When hurdles arise within a couple relationship, it can be very beneficial to seek the professional support of a third party to offer a fresh, unbiased perspective. Counselling support aims to strength the connection between partners while inviting each member to be curious about recurring patterns and behaviours in their lives together.

Couples will be guided in finding a common ground in their relationships. They will learn about each others' communication styles and gain better understanding of each other along the way. They will learn to reconnect by rediscovering each other and engaging in various homework activities in the goal of enjoying spending time with each other again.

Couple Counselling Therapy involves learning how to do the following and much more: love your partner and be loved in return, reconnect with that person you fell in love with, communicate and be heard, transcend the spoken words to truly understand the meaning and importance of your partner's communication. This process necessitates a vision that neither partner is right or wrong and that the other has very different needs that we will probably not understand but that we will need to make central. Visit www.newhorizonscounselling.com for extensive information.

Have you been finding your relationship to be a source of frustration and pain rather than a place of safety and support? Do you find yourself locked into similar arguments with your partner again and again? Would you like to feel closer to or reconnect with your partner again? Do you feel as though you need to re-establish trust because trust has been broken in your relationship? There are many reasons why couples seek therapy. Whatever your reason for seeking support, couples therapy can be a powerful and meaningful way to strengthen trust and the emotional bond between two partners.