Great Couples Counselling in Ottawa, ON. Therapy to heal relationships.

Couple Counselling Therapy involves learning how to do the following and much more: love your partner and be loved in return, reconnect with that person you fell in love with, communicate and be heard, transcend the spoken words to truly understand the meaning and importance of your partner's communication. This process necessitates a vision that neither partner is right or wrong and that the other has very different needs that we will probably not understand but that we will need to make central. Visit www.newhorizonscounselling.com for extensive information.

Most of my practice is working with couples. I have over 30 years of experience dealing mostly with couples. Many people, including therapists, believe that couple counselling is synonymous with "double individual" counselling. Clients coming to my practice soon learn that there is a dynamic set up with a couple that is quite different than when they just list all of their respective issues, challenges and potential solutions. I teach them how to negotiate on every level of their daily lives together. I share with them techniques of how to avoid falling into the "blame and shame game". I have 25 years of experience as a divorce mediator and so I can teach couples conflict resolution.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

The couple relationship is a very close and intimate bond between two partners. When hurdles arise within a couple relationship, it can be very beneficial to seek the professional support of a third party to offer a fresh, unbiased perspective. Counselling support aims to strength the connection between partners while inviting each member to be curious about recurring patterns and behaviours in their lives together.

Couples can often feel disconnected and can have long standing patterns of interaction which feel like they can't move away from, no matter how hard they try. Couples work can help unlock this feeling of 'lock down' and help people understand the pain and fear under the behaviours -their own and their partner's. Through exploring together couples can heal old wounds and begin to feel safe, understood, connected, engaged, and fulfilled bringing vitality back to the relationship.

Several different professions can offer counselling to a couple. For example, when a couple is in conflict over financial issues, they might seek help from a financial counsellor or a pastor. These types of counselling may have similarities to counselling with a Psychotherapist, but the focus and approach are different. The psychotherapist focuses on deeply held core beliefs that each partner brings to the relationship, and how these contribute to the dynamic within the relationship. The emphasis would be on what is driving the emotional and psychological conflict within the couple relationship.

In my work with couples I adhere to the philosophy that relationships are at the core of human experience. Research indicates that emotionally fulfilling relationships are integral components of mental and physical health, and that emotionally focused interventions have the power to establish and re-create supportive bonds among individuals. I am therefore dedicated to the understanding and enhancement of couple and family relationships through an emphasis on emotions and their interpersonal impact. I believe that all people can maximize their potential given a nurturing social environment, which I endeavour to foster in my work with clients.

Usually by the time couples come in they are in significant distress. My approach to couple counselling is built upon Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, which is cutting edge in this field. The goal is to change the climate in the relationship, the safety, the way the individuals experience themselves, and therefore what and how they share with each other. This type of change is enduring. To supplement EFT, I offer other tools which help couples implement changes at home.

Getting married soon or recently engaged? Premarital counselling helps couples explore their marriage assumptions & expectations. Together we can work to recognize your fight patterns and identify where you both get stuck. We can help you learn how to listen to each other without becoming defensive, talk about your hot buttons and your raw spots. We identify your strengths and use them to help build your relationship. Couples counselling can bring you closer together and help you achieve the intimacy and love that you both desire. We offer couples counseling to repair relationships, rebuild trust, communication and intimacy. Call us today at 613 287 3799.

I am pleased to support you in exploring your relationship as you strive to find more joy and fulfillment with each other or consider decisions, whether coming as a couple or on your own. As a Registered Marriage & Family Therapist I am a relationship specialist with experience with a variety of couples and will tailor my cooperative, strength-based and emotion focused approach to work efficiently with your situation in ways that can help to make the hard things easier. Experience with engaged, married, separated, second family, and military couples. Serving the greater Ottawa area with easy access to the 416 and 417 highways.

Providing support for couples' locked in conflict. Learning of their attachment wounds and influences, expectations stemming from childhood allows for greater insight behind the behaviour in their current adult relationship. At the same time improving on their communication style and becoming better active listeners, knowing ways to negotiate and becoming more adept at reaching compromise with your partner. Ensuring a more empathetic and respectful relationship tone can become the new norm.

Couples will be guided in finding a common ground in their relationships. They will learn about each others' communication styles and gain better understanding of each other along the way. They will learn to reconnect by rediscovering each other and engaging in various homework activities in the goal of enjoying spending time with each other again.

Saint Paul University’s Counselling and Psychotherapy Centre welcomes a diverse clientele, for individual or couple’s therapy. Services are provided by counselling interns at the Master of Arts and Doctoral level in Counselling and Spirituality at Saint Paul University. *Services in French available