Within 6 sessions, which felt like eternity to her but is rather a quick recovery from such despair from our perspective, she was not only “back to normal” but better than ever. SS was helped to realize that depression is a symptom of misalignment to her inner core, values, and her soul. She needed to reconnect to what mattered, grieve the past and re-plan her life with alignment in mind. And, that she did. Now she is happier than ever as reported by her. She left her job that she was on short term leave from as it was not aligned with her values and goals that she created while in counselling. She broke off her relationship to her boyfriend and is seeking coursework in an area she has always wanted to explore. The following is her account:
“If you had told me a few months ago that I will feel better than I ever had before, I wouldn’t have believed you. I was feeling lower than I had ever felt. I knew if I didn’t seek help as soon as possible, things would not have ended well for me. I knew I needed to seek help because I knew I could not do it alone.
I felt like everything in my life was a heavy weight bearing down on me so much that it manifested physically on me. I was constantly tired, weak, unmotivated, distracted, I couldn’t focus, my mind would race, and I was not eating well. Not to mention the depressive thoughts constantly seeping through my mind as I tired desperately to get through my day. Getting out of bed was a tiresome task that most of the time I would not attempt to do.
I also felt alone. I felt like there must be something wrong with me and me alone. It seemed like everyone else was capable of living a fulfilling life with no issues like mine. I felt lost and defeated and didn’t know what to do.
Thankfully I found the help I needed through PCCS Mediators & Counsellors. To say it was easy, or to tell other people suffering from depression that “I got through it and you can too!” makes it seem simple. It most certainly wasn’t. I had moments of frustration where I was upset that I wasn’t getting better faster. I hated these depressed feelings and I wanted them gone now! The first day I got out of bed in the morning, I ended right back there an hour later. Another hit to my progress…or at least that was what I had thought.
I was wrong, and thanks for my counsellor, I was able to think differently about my illness and it helped me move forward. I learned that my depression did not come on like a light switch, and therefore would not turn off like a light switch. I would need to take baby steps, and recognize even the tiniest progress in my life. I got out of bed for an hour today? Damn, that is progress, because before I couldn’t do that at all. As little as it seemed, it was a win in the right direction.
I also stopped putting pressure on myself to get better. As much as I hated these depressed feelings and wanted them gone, they served a purpose. It was my mind and body telling me “Hey, hold on a sec, we are not in alignment and we don’t want to go any further until we are.” So in a way, it was a way of my body and subconscious looking out for me. Thinking of my depression not as a curse or something terrible that afflicted me, but rather as a positive wake up call, helped me release the pressure of “getting better’ and made me focus on my own self and my alignment.
Again it was hard and frustrating. I felt like I was stranded in the ocean with my head just above the water amidst enormous waves, trying desperately to stay afloat and not drown.
Thanks to my counselling at PCCS Mediators & Counsellors, not only did I make it past the ocean waves but I feel like I’ve come out better than before. Things that used to bother me don’t do so any more. That feels liberating! The worry that used to plague me is not even an issue. That feels like the biggest breath of fresh air! The self-doubt I had has been replaced with self-confidence, and it is a huge relief! I am not saying life is perfect. It never is. I’ll still have my bad moments and bad days but I certainly feel more prepared for them and have confidence in my resources to help me through.” SS
We offer 60 minute counselling services unless otherwise agreed. You can pay by cash, debit, Mastercard or Visa (we do not take cheques). Services are often covered under your employee extended benefits plan for registered social workers and registered psychologists . Typically you pay us and we provide you with a receipt for you to forward to your insurance provider designate. Further, registered social workers and registered psychologists are an allowable expense under the medical claim on your tax return as per Revenue Canada rules
We make every effort to get you in for a session within the same week as your call to us. We understand that once you find the courage to make the call you don’t want to have to wait several weeks or months for an appointment.