Stress, PTSD and Anxiety Therapists in Esquimalt, BC.

I use therapeutic insights and my own experience to guide you. If stress and anxiety paralyses you and is hurting those you love, and you don't know what to do, professional assistance is called for. Feelings of anxiety result from our reality and how we look at this reality. Our perspective is shaped by our experience and thinking. By understanding emotionally why you are where you are and why you feel about this the way you will be helpful. By keeping judgment at bay, the emotional space for other insights and options that can help you manage your anxiety better and to discover what you need to do to move beyond your anxiety, will develop.

You are not alone. Whether you are anxious in social situations, suffering from PTSD, OCD, or panic disorders, or experiencing a generalized and on-going anxiety, you are not the only one! And you don't have to face it by yourself. At your own pace we will work at alleviating the physical symptoms like nausea, dizziness, chest pain, muscle tension, trembling and sweating. We will manage the manifestations of your anxiety, like isolation, irrational fears, or heart racing panic attacks. Discover helpful anxiety and stress, and why it is essential to our survival. Find peace in our carefully created therapeutic relationship, and recreate it in all parts of your life.

Anxiety, stress, and burnout can affect both emotional wellbeing and the body’s nervous system. In my work with clients, I use evidence-based CBT strategies to help identify patterns of thinking that may increase anxiety, stress, or overwhelm. Together, we explore practical tools for calming nervous system activation, managing worry, and responding to stress in more grounded and effective ways. Stress management may also include developing communication skills, setting healthy boundaries, and learning to identify and express needs more clearly. My approach is collaborative, supportive, and focused on helping clients build practical strategies they can use in daily life.

Anxiety, stress, and depression are common symptoms of relationship distress. Research shows that having close connections calms our nervous systems and promotes emotional balance and well-being. What we do with emotion impacts the quality of our relationships, and our relationships impact our emotions. I help clients access, understand, and order their emotional worlds so that they can be used as a compass and vehicle for connection with important others. What we do with emotion makes sense based on our biology and our life experiences, but at times our strategies become outdated. Contact today to schedule a free 15-minute consultation. 

Anxiety is a very common experience for many people and can manifest within a person's life in many different ways. I provide opportunities for people to learn about anxiety, develop an awareness about their thoughts, emotions and beliefs that fuel anxiety and offer clinically proven strategies for overcoming anxiety. I work together with individuals to develop a counselling program that entails understanding where a person's anxiety may have originated, developing an awareness into the situations and relationships that trigger their anxiety and employing coping methods to help manage anxiety in daily life.

Anxiety can severely impact the quality of a person's life. It can impact their sleep, work, relationships, school, and their physical health. Sometimes, anxiety can become so intense that people experience physical symptoms like sweating, heart racing, dizziness, nausea, etc. The good news is that there are effective psychological treatments for anxiety. CBT (Cognitive behavioural therapy), which is the type of therapy I practice, is an evidence-based approach that provides individuals with skills to help manage their anxiety and get control over their lives back.

I believe anxiety is a response to aspects of life that a person deems fearful, unsafe, or uncertain. It is possible to reduce or eliminate a person's anxiety in counselling, and in doing so, you will feel lighter, more secure, and grounded in your daily living. Similarly, high stress levels can perpetuate a person's sense of anxiety. I believe stress can be managed and significantly decreased through counselling.

Stress and anxiety are often caused by uncertainty; feelings of loss of control, unresolved conflict or emotional isolation. These thoughts and experiences tend to create a sense of overwhelm, that life is out of our control. Laurie can help you develop coping behaviors so that you can live a more balanced life, where your energy can be spent on living, rather than on stress and worry. Through working with Laurie and implementing various exercises and techniques, she can help you become more aware of patterns that our thoughts and emotions get caught up in. Once you become aware of these patterns, we are in a better position to alter them; this includes changing our patterns of responses that we experience as stress or anxiety.

Stress & anxiety can feel awful. They can interfere with our ability to access joy, relate to others, and engage in life to the fullest. When there is no relief, depression, burnout & illness can ensue. Help is available though. Whether your are experiencing worry & rumination, intrusive thoughts & obsessive-compulsive behaviours, PTSD, anxious feelings & panic attacks, or a need to control self or others in order to feel safe, I can help you to reduce your symptoms while bringing awareness to the underlying causes. Depending on your needs, my approach to draws on Mindfulness-based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT), somatic techniques, and psychodynamic psychotherapy.

Shelley teaches her clients how to cope with stress and anxiety through Mindfulness, Compassion, and Cognitive Behaviour Therapy. Understanding the underlying fears that trigger their anxiety, can help clients become more aware of their negative thought patterns. Reframing those negative thoughts and unhealthy core beliefs can help clients to feel more in charge of their life as they experience their world more realistically. Shelley teaches valuable skills to help clients regulate and calm their anxiety by relaxation and visualisation techniques. Shelley's keen ability to attune to her clients with compassion and empathy as well as teaching skills is her gift that leads to her success.

When you worry you suffer in advance for outcomes which have not yet happened and, in fact, rarely do happen. It is bad enough to suffer the bad things that really do happen without suffering needlessly. We will seek to strengthen faith and trust that the world is mainly safe for you. Stress is the result of overloading our coping competencies. We will talk about riding through anxiety attacks and techniques to reduce uncomfortable hyper vigilance. We will look back into your history to find the roots of anxiety and stress. We may use trauma relief strategies such as EMDR or Traumatic Incident reduction (TIR). Counseling for anxiety and stress should make you happier and more relaxed.

As we explore anxiety and stress together, we’ll cultivate curiosity about where these feelings come from while learning practical tools to self-regulate and build resilience. My approach empowers you with coping strategies tailored to your needs, helping you navigate life’s challenges with greater calm, confidence, and balance for lasting well-being.

The source of our stresses may be numerous but a clear and unbiased awareness of the self-talk that contributes to each experience is a powerful source of change and empowerment. As I listen to each account and draw out further details that make the experience more understandable, I also map out the potential changes and outline the new self-talk that will reduce the stresses and anxiety.