Anger Management and Counselling in Port Alberni, BC.

Anger often surfaces to mask another emotion such as fear, rejection, jealousy, or sadness. I work with you to uncover your deeper feelings and explore how they are expressed through anger. Together, we explore healthy outlets and communication strategies which you can apply to your life immediately. Treatment is tailored to your individual circumstance and needs, with a focus on emotional regulation and self compassion.

When anger gets the best of us, we can say and/or do things that we later wish we could change or take back. Anger is an instinctive universal emotion, one in which we all have, but not all expressions of anger have to be hurt. In fact, anger works as a great informant and can motivate us to take action to improve our own lives and the lives of people that we care about.

No matter what happens, or how your day begins, a spark ignites within you and you feel a rage rise up that cannot be quenched until its exploded, showering the world with ash and darkness. No one understands. Everyone tells you to be calm. To chill out. To relax. Makes your skin itch and you want to scream with frustration. Hair trigger temper. Short fuse. Stop yelling at me. I don't like being screamed at. Do these phrases sound familiar? Well, we can work together to build new bridges and roads to a place where you feel heard, and understood. Communication doesn't have to be difficult. Lets talk together and create a place of harmony in the current chaos. It can be done. I promise.

It sucks to be angry and loose control of our emotions. Anger can have a devastating impact on the people we love the most. I will support you in addressing the emotions, trauma and pain underneath anger and learn to identify your triggers and patterns. I will teach you tools to address your stress and help you learn to better deal with your emotions. Learning to communicate our needs in a way that will be received is also a part of how I address anger issues.

Anger and violence are wildly misunderstood issues. I believe that it is important to explore the context in which the anger or violence occurs. For example, does it happen at home, or at work, or in public? Who is impacted by the anger or violence? How do the individuals who are impacted resist and respond to the anger/violence? Through counselling we will explore the context of the interactions. Once we understand the context (who is doing what to who?) I will respectfully invite responsibility taking and strategies for more helpful communication and responses.

A response to life's events falls upon a continuum from neutral to highly-reactive. At times anger, Gandhi called it "Righteous Indignation," is necessary to respond to injustices or inappropriate behaviours. However, uncontrolled, inappropriate anger is destructive to one's self and others. Mindfulness and Metta (Loving Kindness) meditations are excellent tools to deal with anger. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) also called Tapping, along with skillful use of affirmations can help to cool the fires of anger. The benefits of anger management lead to a regulating of emotions and thus a gaining of peace of mind, positive relationships, career and family security.

Individuals struggling to manage anger can be exhausting and overwhelming; often there is a significant negative effect on others in their life. We will work to uncover where the intense anger is originating from and heal. We will also wok to develop new skills and tools to manage emotional situations in a more positive an effective way. It is also important to work to heal the damage to loved ones whom have been affected.

Has anger taken over your life? Are you seeking different ways to manage and cope with life’s stresses? I use a body based approach in working with people in reaching their goals. In addition, I share the ‘why’s’ & ‘how’s’ of feelings, the brain & nervous systems role in feelings/emotions. Learning and about and understanding your emotional landscape is key in overcoming anger.