Anger Management and Counselling in Uxbridge, ON.

Through the use of acceptance and mindfulness strategies help clients to be fully present in the moment and to accept otherwise negative emotions that contribute to unhealthy expressions of anger. Commitment and behavior change strategies help clients to change or persist in behaviors more in line with their own values. Used together these strategies increase client’s psychological flexibility.

I believe that often times anger is a manifestation of unprocessed or repressed painful emotions. As such, I approach anger in a patient, respectful and inquisitive manner, allowing clients to access parts of themselves that they have disconnected from. I believe that when the emotions underlying anger can be brought to light and processed, then alternative ways of expressing those emotions can be explored. Contact me to book a free consultation.

A response to life's events falls upon a continuum from neutral to highly-reactive. At times anger, Gandhi called it "Righteous Indignation," is necessary to respond to injustices or inappropriate behaviours. However, uncontrolled, inappropriate anger is destructive to one's self and others. Mindfulness and Metta (Loving Kindness) meditations are excellent tools to deal with anger. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) also called Tapping, along with skillful use of affirmations can help to cool the fires of anger. The benefits of anger management lead to a regulating of emotions and thus a gaining of peace of mind, positive relationships, career and family security.

We start by identifying your anger triggers & things you have to be angry about. We identify your anger style, including behaviours you engage in when angry. We identify where anger happens in your body & work to help you start to see clues when your anger is starting to manifest. We help you improve your emotional language and vocabulary. We identify new ways you might react to anger. We will explore together your anger process, including analyzing instances when you were angry, the thoughts you had, the related feelings, & the behaviour you engaged in as a result. We will talk about "anger up, anger down," identifying the things you say to yourself that either increases or decrease anger.

Getting therapy for anger management with us will be beneficial because you are offered a safe and supportive space to explore the underlying causes of anger and learn effective strategies for managing it. Therapy can help individuals develop self-awareness, identify triggers, and learn healthier ways to express and cope with anger. You'll be offered tools and techniques to help regulate your emotions, improve communication skills, and build healthier relationships. Additionally, therapy can address any underlying issues, such as past trauma or unresolved conflicts, that may contribute to anger.

I work to teach my clients to both understand the underlying components of anger, and to provide them with strageties to stop it at the very first sign. Understanding what causes the anger is a key component to stopping it. I also look into situational factors such as relationships or work environments that may be contributing to the problem. Spouses, partners, friends, or family members are welcome to join in the process where appropriate, and only if you choose to do so. You will feel more in control, calmer and healthier and happier as a result, and your relationships will improve as well.

Emotions serve a very important purpose, they help guide us, but all too often they get ignored, pushed aside, or asked to take a back seat. I believe it is important to have a space where our emotions can be understood, explored, and validated. Anger is often the result of emotions that have been denied, misunderstood, and shut down. My approach to emotion regulation and anger management is to help build our understanding of what these emotions are trying to tell us, learn to use this information in valuable beneficial ways, and build on resilience and coping strategies to assist in improving interpersonal relationships.