Anger Management and Counselling in Discovery Ridge, Calgary, AB.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger is a normal healthy human emotion. When people allow it to get out of control it can turn destructive, it can lead to problems at work, personal relationships, and the overall quality of life. I like to think of anger using the metaphore of a hammer. You can do a lot of things with a hammer. You can build things and you can tear things apart. The hammer is just a tool just like anger can be a tool. Anger isn't the problem, it's what you do with it. I help people learn the skills they need to use their anger and the underlying hurt and feelings of injustice to make positive choices that lead to positive relationships and experiences.

Anger isn't just a feeling, but it involves the way we think and how our body responds. You will learn more about what situations and thoughts activate anger, what other emotions may be involved when you feel angry, and working with calming your body when anger is activated. You can expect to feel more aware of and in control of your anger even after a few sessions together. Going even deeper, we can explore more about the key experiences that activate your anger and learn to heal from old hurt that continues flaring up as anger in the here and now.

Anger gets a bad wrap, but it's actually an important and vital emotion. It is a signal, a protector, it has roots. Anger often shows up as loud, messy or explosive. Underneath is usually pain, fear, powerlessness, betrayal or unmet needs that never had a soft place to exist. We don't suppress anger, we get curious about it. Let's unpack, understand and learn to work with it not against it.. Together.

Anger management is primarily about recognizing and learning about ourselves and how we deal with our world. Learning the many, many ways how anger impacts the important people in our lives in negative ways, and realizing how serious the consequences can be; can help to motivate us to develop strategies and better ways of dealing with our frustration and inner pain -- ways that won't alienate the people we love.

I have worked with several men who have struggled with managing their anger reactions. While I don't work exclusively with men on anger or related topics, I do specialize in helping men feel heard and understood and then overcome their struggles with anger, violence, self-control, depression from societal or family pressures, financial difficulties, porn addiction, and more.

Anger IS different for women and just trying to manage it rarely works. But, you can discover a different path. Come and learn how to break through the patterns of silence, uncover your repressed heart longings, explore your deepest needs and stand up into all God has for your life. If you're done with quick fixes and bandaids are no longer enough, then come and discover a better way to make love work for you!

I love working with clients who are struggling to manage their anger. What I see over and over again are clients who are dealing with high levels of stress, sleepless nights, and difficult situations at home where they are unable to balance their self-care with their responsibilities and needs. Whether you've gotten into legal troubles, or just recognize the need for support, I am happy to work towards understanding the unique factors that are contributing to what you are feeling and begin to help you slowly ease yourself in a new direction.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Anger can be an interesting reaction because often times there are other emotions lingering just under the surface. By learning to identify and express other emotions, as well as working on building a skill set to counteract impulsivity, healthy coping mechanisms can be put in the place of bad habits, giving clients a chance to observe how they have more control than they ever thought possible.

Keystone provides counseling in anger management and emotional regulation. Clients will explore the source of their anger or their child's anger and develop skills to express it in a healthy manner. Parents will learn how to manage their child's anger in a productive way and learn strategies to facilitate healthy emotional development in their children. Anger management for adults focuses on expressing their anger in a healthy manner, rather than just learning to control their anger. As with all counseling at Keystone Child and Family Therapy, an emphasis is placed on developing close, enjoyable, and connected family relationships.

With extensive experience in anger management, I provide evidence-based therapy exclusively via secure online sessions. Together, we explore triggers, strengthen emotional regulation, and develop healthier ways to respond to challenging situations. By applying EMDR, DBT, and emotion-centered strategies, I help you create tools that decrease impulsive reactions and support stronger, more connected relationships—all through a virtual platform that mirrors the benefits of face-to-face therapy.

Anger often stems from feeling so many emotions all at once. You lose a sense of control. You go from 0 to 100 in a blink of an eye. By getting angry you’re attempting to regain control that’s presumed lost. But instead, you’re full of guilt and shame. Feeling angry and reacting in anger, is simply exhausting. I’ll help you learn how to regain control, in a healthy way.

We feel anger because we feel that something is not fair, something is not working out the way we thought it should, our boundaries have been crossed, or we feel we have been treated badly, or missed out. Anger can be frustrating if you don't know how to address the underlying issue. I specialize in helping those whose anger is related to social anxiety, isolation, bullying, harassment or lack of important social skills.

I have had extensive training and experience in working with both anger management and domestic violence issues. I have a fundamental understanding of using cognitive behavior therapy, rational emotive therapy and Duluth model fundamentals for working with power and control issues or anger management. I have also had extensive experience in running groups, assessing anger related issues and working through the underlying issues which lead to problematic anger. EMDR has also been found to be effectively useful for working with unresolved emotional issues leading to anger problems.