Anger Management and Counselling in Calgary, AB.

Anger is a normal healthy human emotion. When people allow it to get out of control it can turn destructive, it can lead to problems at work, personal relationships, and the overall quality of life. I like to think of anger using the metaphore of a hammer. You can do a lot of things with a hammer. You can build things and you can tear things apart. The hammer is just a tool just like anger can be a tool. Anger isn't the problem, it's what you do with it. I help people learn the skills they need to use their anger and the underlying hurt and feelings of injustice to make positive choices that lead to positive relationships and experiences.

Anger often stems from feeling so many emotions all at once. You lose a sense of control. You go from 0 to 100 in a blink of an eye. By getting angry you’re attempting to regain control that’s presumed lost. But instead, you’re full of guilt and shame. Feeling angry and reacting in anger, is simply exhausting. I’ll help you learn how to regain control, in a healthy way.

I approach the problem of anger differently from most therapists. Instead of struggling to fight against and manage anger, I encourage people to examine why anger is there and how it protects him or her so he or she can choose to do something different through the tools and strategies developed in sessions. Anger, like all strong emotions, is telling us something. If we can understand it, then it will lose its power over us. This frees us up to make different decisions about how we react with those around us that can be more aligned with who we want to be with those closest to us. This values-driven approach guides behaviour change long-term.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

It often feels like Anger arises without warning. Before we know it, we are in the midst of an angry outburst. It doesn't need to be this way! At Menla Psychological Counselling you will learn ways to regain control of your anger, rather than having it control you. The goal of anger management isn't to get rid of anger, it is a valid emotion after all, but rather to stop anger from causing chaos and pain in your life.

Anger can be an interesting reaction because often times there are other emotions lingering just under the surface. By learning to identify and express other emotions, as well as working on building a skill set to counteract impulsivity, healthy coping mechanisms can be put in the place of bad habits, giving clients a chance to observe how they have more control than they ever thought possible.

When we can learn to investigate anger, build acceptance and tolerance for uncomfortable feelings, and find ways to soothe ourselves, we can manage anger in ways that are supportive of our relationships and supportive of ourselves. Learning anger management can involve building skills in multiple areas including communication, needs identification, distress tolerance, and/or emotional regulation.

I have worked with several men who have struggled with managing their anger reactions. While I don't work exclusively with men on anger or related topics, I do specialize in helping men feel heard and understood and then overcome their struggles with anger, violence, self-control, depression from societal or family pressures, financial difficulties, porn addiction, and more.

I love working with clients who are struggling to manage their anger. What I see over and over again are clients who are dealing with high levels of stress, sleepless nights, and difficult situations at home where they are unable to balance their self-care with their responsibilities and needs. Whether you've gotten into legal troubles, or just recognize the need for support, I am happy to work towards understanding the unique factors that are contributing to what you are feeling and begin to help you slowly ease yourself in a new direction.

Anger can often feel like an untamed force within, disrupting your peace and straining your connections with those closest to you. In your sessions with me, we'll dive deep into the core of your anger, uncovering its roots and transforming it into a tool for positive growth. I'll guide you in gaining insights into your emotional triggers and help you learn effective and practical emotional regulation techniques. Our journey will be about more than just controlling your anger; it will be about reshaping it into a constructive part of your life that enhances your relationships and fosters a sense of deep peace and fulfillment.

My experience working as a Forensic Therapist for more than 6 years provided me with an intimate understanding of anger in addition to a variety of tools to support those who are struggling to control their negative feelings. I work to both help others uncover and address the roots of their anger in addition to providing them with various tools that can be utilized to help them manage their emotions more effectively.

I help clients manage anger with cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), a research-based approach in which I am certified. I help clients view anger as a helpful emotion if managed properly. I focus on clients reducing the intensity of their anger internally and expressing the concerns underlying their anger in a constructive manner.

Tired of just managing your anger? Good! We don't offer anger management, we offer Christian Counselling that empowers you to fix the underlying issues that caused the anger to begin with. So, if you're looking to forever end the cycle of explosions and apologies and long to finally get control of that out of control feeling, we can help! Anger is just too powerful of a force to simply manage.