Anger Management and Counselling in Langdon, AB.

Anger is a normal healthy human emotion. When people allow it to get out of control it can turn destructive, it can lead to problems at work, personal relationships, and the overall quality of life. I like to think of anger using the metaphore of a hammer. You can do a lot of things with a hammer. You can build things and you can tear things apart. The hammer is just a tool just like anger can be a tool. Anger isn't the problem, it's what you do with it. I help people learn the skills they need to use their anger and the underlying hurt and feelings of injustice to make positive choices that lead to positive relationships and experiences.

When we can learn to investigate anger, build acceptance and tolerance for uncomfortable feelings, and find ways to soothe ourselves, we can manage anger in ways that are supportive of our relationships and supportive of ourselves. Learning anger management can involve building skills in multiple areas including communication, needs identification, distress tolerance, and/or emotional regulation.

Our anger can be a sentry, a protector and a wise indicator that our boundaries have been transgressed or that something vitally important to us is threatened. It can also be a raging tyrant, a short fuse, a simmering internalisation that off-gases through passive aggression, or a childish tantrum. Becoming intimate with our anger is synonymous with becoming intimidate with our power. In anger therapy, we will work to understand the unique way your anger process happens through somatic awareness, mindfulness and emotional intimacy. We will look at your history with anger, your family lineage, and you will learn tools to channel this fire in ways that support rather than hinder your life.

Anger often stems from feeling so many emotions all at once. You lose a sense of control. You go from 0 to 100 in a blink of an eye. By getting angry you’re attempting to regain control that’s presumed lost. But instead, you’re full of guilt and shame. Feeling angry and reacting in anger, is simply exhausting. I’ll help you learn how to regain control, in a healthy way.

A response to life's events falls upon a continuum from neutral to highly-reactive. At times anger, Gandhi called it "Righteous Indignation," is necessary to respond to injustices or inappropriate behaviours. However, uncontrolled, inappropriate anger is destructive to one's self and others. Mindfulness and Metta (Loving Kindness) meditations are excellent tools to deal with anger. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) also called Tapping, along with skillful use of affirmations can help to cool the fires of anger. The benefits of anger management lead to a regulating of emotions and thus a gaining of peace of mind, positive relationships, career and family security.

It often feels like Anger arises without warning. Before we know it, we are in the midst of an angry outburst. It doesn't need to be this way! At Menla Psychological Counselling you will learn ways to regain control of your anger, rather than having it control you. The goal of anger management isn't to get rid of anger, it is a valid emotion after all, but rather to stop anger from causing chaos and pain in your life.

I have had extensive training and experience in working with both anger management and domestic violence issues. I have a fundamental understanding of using cognitive behavior therapy, rational emotive therapy and Duluth model fundamentals for working with power and control issues or anger management. I have also had extensive experience in running groups, assessing anger related issues and working through the underlying issues which lead to problematic anger. EMDR has also been found to be effectively useful for working with unresolved emotional issues leading to anger problems.

If you are seeking a safe environment to understand and transform your experience of anger and resentment, I can help. Through enhanced awareness of personal beliefs, thoughts and the impact on behaviour, you can begin the change process. Please contact me for further information on how I can be of assistance

Anger is a powerful emotion that tells that something needs to change. Anger can be destructive or empowering. Inappropriate expression of anger can disrupt work and relationships. Even though you may have been taught that anger is taboo, bottling up anger is not the answer either. Poorly managed anger can also lead to problems with physical health. Well managed anger can help protect personal boundaries. Often anger masks other underlying feelings that are more painful. Anu helps you to not only manage anger and act assertively, but discover what information anger gives you about what you need or what your anger may be hiding.

I have worked with several men who have struggled with managing their anger reactions. While I don't work exclusively with men on anger or related topics, I do specialize in helping men feel heard and understood and then overcome their struggles with anger, violence, self-control, depression from societal or family pressures, financial difficulties, porn addiction, and more.