Anger Management and Counselling in Discovery Ridge, Calgary, AB.

Anger is a normal human emotion that can assist us in protecting ourselves and creating boundaries with others. When misused, however, it can also be dstructive and alienating. Anger management will assist you to identify anger triggers and to develop strategies for calming yourself and expressing frustration without damaging yourself or others in the process. The aim of therapy together is to regain control over one's anger in order to choose when, how, and with whom to be appropriately angry.

Anger management is primarily about recognizing and learning about ourselves and how we deal with our world. Learning the many, many ways how anger impacts the important people in our lives in negative ways, and realizing how serious the consequences can be; can help to motivate us to develop strategies and better ways of dealing with our frustration and inner pain -- ways that won't alienate the people we love.

We all feel anger. It is how you use that anger that can cause harm to those you love, care about and work with. Anger is a secondary emotion. It is the emotion that people see in those who feel hurt and misunderstood. Anger is also an indication that your boundaries have been crossed. Let me show you how to use your anger appropriately and to uncover some of the beliefs that make anger your go to reaction.

We feel anger because we feel that something is not fair, something is not working out the way we thought it should, our boundaries have been crossed, or we feel we have been treated badly, or missed out. Anger can be frustrating if you don't know how to address the underlying issue. I specialize in helping those whose anger is related to social anxiety, isolation, bullying, harassment or lack of important social skills.

Anger acted out can damage our relationships and leave us feeling ashamed about our behavior and lack of control. But like other feelings, anger has its reasons. In the process of learning to gain control of one’s anger, it becomes very important to find out what specifically those reasons are, as they often run deeper than we may think. Working with anger in therapy means treating it as a signal of something, a voice that needs to be heard. The voice may speak to our boundaries being crossed, an unmet need, or an old and deep pain. Working with awareness of body sensations can slow down the process – which is so key to anger management – and allow the true voice of anger to tell its story.

Anger is a positive emotion! Learning to use anger positively can result in less stress, greater happiness and a stronger sense of pride in one’s own responses. Anger motivates and empowers people to act in pursuit of justice, resolution and healing. It is first of all a compliment for those having the motive of caring about what is right. The secret of getting your anger to work for you is to unhook it from the second motive of guaranteeing that future injustices will not happen. Pursuing that guarantee just burns people out! At McNaughton and Associates Counselling, we will help you get the most out of your anger in a healthy manner, and escape damaging consequences.

Tired of just managing your anger? Good! We don't offer anger management, we offer Christian Counselling that empowers you to fix the underlying issues that caused the anger to begin with. So, if you're looking to forever end the cycle of explosions and apologies and long to finally get control of that out of control feeling, we can help! Anger is just too powerful of a force to simply manage.

Our thoughts, feelings and behaviours are connected and can be difficult and confusing to take a step back and look at our own anger. Counselling helps ways to cope with feelings of anger in a healthier way and offer new perceptions to view triggers. Anger can be a symptom of many things such as, past hurts and current feelings of being misunderstood, or being a victim of an injustice. Counselling will help sort this all out and help you feel more in control of your own thoughts, feelings and actions as well as, provide a deeper sense of peace and forgiveness for your self or others.

My experience working as a Forensic Therapist for more than 6 years provided me with an intimate understanding of anger in addition to a variety of tools to support those who are struggling to control their negative feelings. I work to both help others uncover and address the roots of their anger in addition to providing them with various tools that can be utilized to help them manage their emotions more effectively.

Anger can be a healthy response to negative treatment or events. We’ve all gotten angry and it can help to communicate to others that we’re not okay with something. In fact, not having the ability to feel anger is a whole other issue. However, for some people, uncontrollable, overly frequent or inappropriate expressions of anger can damage relationships, career success or more. Shift Psychological can help the anger management process by identifying and treating the origins of the anger – the messages about self and the world that cause it. Then, using our unique approach we remove them. This results in an absence of reaction and an appropriate level of calm.

We all get angry at times. Healthy, constructive anger is one way that little voice inside your body says, 'Hey, something's not OK -- can we fix this?' Anger is just an emotion, like any other -- love, loneliness, shame, hope, boredom, happiness, ad infinitum. What makes anger a problem is what you choose to do in response to that little voice ... is your response unhealthy? Destructive? Sometimes anger is a problem when you ignore that little voice -- that warning signal that alerts you that all is not OK inside you and insists that you DO something about it. If your anger is getting in the way of your relationships and your quality of life, I can help you turn things around.

Dr. Val used to facilitate groups of those who had engaged in family violence, both men and women. Up front, number one is caring acceptance of the perpetrator, regardless of what he/she has done. A non-judgmental attitude is engendered based on Val's understanding that we are all children of God, and that we've all got a negative and a positive side, and those two sides are in constant battle. Helping people recognize their physiological signs of anger and curbing them before the explosion, is an important part of Dr. Val's training. Learning emotional regulation is a cornerstone of her approach.

I offer counselling for anger. Did you know that anger is a primal emotion, meaning that it is an automatic "reaction" to situations, located in the hind brain along with functions such as breathing and heart rate? Humans use anger as an unconscious defence mechanism when they feel threatened, which indicates that it is an emotion actually based in fear. It is important to understand this in order to be able to empathize with these people, making them feel safe enough to let their guard down and reveal what they are so afraid of. The anger then fades away and I am able to teach them how to rewire their brains in order to "respond" to stressful situations rather than react without thinking.