Great Couples Counselling in Calgary, AB. Therapy to heal relationships.

[I OFFER VIDEO SESSIONS THROUGHOUT ALBERTA AND ONTARIO]. Your struggles might seem overwhelming now, but most situations can be rectified. I have worked with many couples, regardless of their lifestyle. I have been a psychologist since 1986. I am also a professor emeritus of counselling psychology. Set up an appointment now before things get worse by going to https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=14249112

I help couples by focusing on two goals: (1) Communicating constructively about issues; (2) Having a strong relationship friendship. I help couples achieve these goals by giving them skills from Gottman's Sound Relationship House Model and cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT). I am trained in Gottman's model and am certified in CBT.

Creating stronger relationships through the research- based Gottman approach. Couples who wish to develop a deeper awareness and connection in their relationships will benefit in using E- Counselling to enhance communication and bonding. Often when we are in a face to face conversation we are thinking of our next response rather than allowing the other person to be understood. Using a secure and completely confidential web based Gottman trained counsellor will help break down the barriers of communication and improve relationship dynamics. Couples can expect more understanding, respect and intimacy in their relationship. LGBT relationships are welcome.

Are you and your partner stuck in unsolvable arguments? Does one of you tend to ‘demand’ more while the other shuts down and withdraws? Are you feeling less connected and actually adding stress to each other’s lives instead of reducing it? While frustrating, these are perfectly normal patterns of partnership and there is hope. I would be glad to help you untangle the knots, learning to team up together instead of entering battles over who is right. In doing so, we will unpack past traumas and patterns of behaviour, learning to better communicate and to be safely vulnerable in a way that stands your relationship on solid ground.

Sharing your life with another is one of the most difficult yet potentially rewarding experiences life has to offer. Creating and maintaining open and honest communication (learning to listen, summarize and validate are skills that must be taught and practiced) is key to the success with relationships of any kind. I can assist in helping build strong interpersonal skills that help break down barriers and strengthen connections.

You love each other, so why is it so hard? Communication on the surface looks so simple, but it can be hard to do well, especially if you weren't given the tools to be a good communicator. In couples counselling, you and your partner will learn what recurring patterns get you stuck, and what emotions that brings up for each of you. You'll learn to share your emotions and truly hear your partner's deepest feelings. Using an emotion focused model, you will get to practice communicating together to actively learn to get unstuck and connect more. You don't need to worry that I will choose sides; my job is to help you feel safe to express your feelings and share your love again.

Most people want communication skills. Granted, those are needed but improving a relationship, increasing connection and intimacy, and navigating difficult conversations around areas of differing opinions involves yourself - you are your most valuable ally in any relationship. Understanding yourself, your beliefs, reactions and having ways to 'show up differently' in the relationship are your best bet to feeling better about your relationship, no matter what aspect you want to work on. Through my therapy techniques, I invite you to understand yourself in relationship as well as learn more effective ways to know and be known, the incredibly courageous work of intimacy.

Drawing from the Gottman Method, I work with couples (married or not; in open or closed relationships), to assess and build upon the strengths of the relationship, and to develop ways to address challenges unique to you and your partner. We will find what's getting in the way of you and your partner trusting each other, or rebuild trust after it has been compromised.

Couples and relationship counselling is about: using curiosity to discover each other, deepening your understanding of each other, cultivating empathy and compassion for each other, and communicating to each other that you are there for them. Research shows that friendship is the foundation of of a solid and healthy long-term relationship. During counselling with me you will learn the attitudes and skills needed to curate and participate in exciting, unforgettable and life-long friendships and intimate relationships.

Whether you're just wanting to clarify that you're in a healthy relationship or you have specific issues to resolve, I can offer a neutral and non-judgemental space while helping you navigate yourself and each other. Working from an Emotionally Focused Therapy and Systems theory framework, I can help you uncover your true needs in a relationship and work through any barriers or obstacles to living a healthy and fulfilling life.

I offer mediation and communication techniques and strategies designed to help couples navigate difficult events and situations. I will work with you to gain a deeper understanding of your partner's and your own experiences which may be contributing to miscommunications within the relationship. We will work together to identify common goals and develop a treatment plan specific to your relationship concerns and challenges.

In a relationship, each member is responsible for an equal share of the dynamic. In a family, that means it splits between the amount of people, and in a couple it’s 50% created by each partner. This 50% is the result of the individual’s needs- both functional and dysfunctional. Functional needs relate to biological drives, culture, relationship goals, values, etc. Dysfunctional needs come from limiting beliefs, which are internalized in our childhood. They create needs like: the need to be in control, or the need to protect oneself. The needs, whether functional or dysfunctional, can balance each other out, creating a “stabilizer” or they can become unmet needs.

I offered structured and effective methods for working with couples whether the goal is to improve the relationship or successfully separation. I use assessment tools that highlight what is working and not working in troubled relationships where couples want to stay together. Strategies to target problem areas are chosen and practiced in sessions and at home. By improving communication skills, conflict resolution skills and deepening couple intimacy, couples are able to feel more successful in their relationships. When there is closeness and comfort in our most important relationships it can positively impact our overall wellbeing.