Anger Management and Counselling in Wellington, AB.

What's your relationship with anger like? Is it the only emotion that's allowed out or maybe it's one that feels too unsafe, like you can't trust yourself to express anger, so you suppress and bottle it up, causing you to feel worse. Maybe you don't want to feel angry, but it feels justified. Maybe you turn that anger inwards towards yourself. You may be really self-critical. Anger can cause a lot of suffering to us and those around us, so it can be important to work on changing the relationship we have with it. I can work with you to better understand your anger and other emotions and to change how you interact with them, so it causes you and those around you less suffering.

Anger is often misunderstood and equated with aggression. In fact, anger is a highly positive emotion which helps to define our boundaries and affirm our inner strengths. Therapy can make anger your friend by helping you to notice it, understand it and express it in a positive way. Most people need to be more angry rather than less. Anger cannot be controlled by bottling it up.

Anger is an emotion that can be very destructive to yourself and others. There is, however, a healthy side of anger if it is used for good. Anger can be communicating something very important about what kind of expectations you have of yourself and others. It may also be an indicator that you are tolerating something that doesn’t feel okay. Sometimes aNiger informs us that we are taking other peoples behavior personally. When we learn to value ourselves, say no and focus on Devine love anger is transformed.

Do you feel angry all the time? Are your actions or behaviours impacting your personal or professional life? Are you finding it difficult to move past certain events or arguments? Therapy can help you understand your anger and what is behind it. CBT and DBT are often utilized when supporting clients with anger management. Learn how to regulate your emotions in a safe, non-judgmental space.

Anger can be a healthy reaction to upsetting events, but when expressed aggressively it is very destructive. You can learn how to calm your anger and channel it in a healthy way. Anxiety is often a contributor to angry outbursts. When you are tense, worried, insecure and perfectionistic anger easily surfaces. Addressing the underlying causes of anger enables you to disengage from destructive patterns and improve your relationships.

The first step to changing anger is becoming increasingly aware of it. Through awareness, we will begin to find ways to interrupt the cycle of anger and move you towards emotional regulation that will help you. It will help to improve your relationship with others and even yourself. You will find a sense of relief in being able to remain more calm, more of the time.

I have training and experience supporting children, teens, and adults in understanding and managing anger in healthy, constructive ways. I view anger not as a problem, but as a signal, often pointing to deeper emotions such as hurt, fear, or unmet needs. In therapy, I help clients recognize their triggers, develop emotional awareness, and learn practical tools for calming the body and expressing anger safely. Using a combination of somatic regulation, EMDR, mindfulness, narrative therapy, clients learn to respond rather than react, improving communication and relationships. My goal is to help individuals transform anger from something overwhelming into a source of strength.

Managing anger means managing your need to have things your way even if your way seems reasonable to you. It means questioning your sense of entitlement to having your way. Anger can be a strong communication to others that what one is angry about really matters. As an initial response it can be a powerful impetus to change but unless one takes some kind of action following the anger it will only serve to reinforce a sense of powerlessness. Anger can be a way to impose ones will. Sometimes people learn that this works in the short term but in the long term it never really does.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Through an Emotionally Focused therapeutic lens, I help you understand what’s happening beneath the surface of anger — the emotions, needs, and pain that often drive it. Rather than trying to suppress or control anger, I will help you listen to it with curiosity and compassion, creating space for real change. Through this process, you can: Understand what your anger is protecting – Often, anger covers up feelings like hurt, fear, or rejection. EFIT helps you uncover and make sense of these deeper emotions. Recognize emotional patterns – Learn what situations trigger anger and how your body and mind respond in those moments.

Anger can be a healthy response to negative treatment or events. We’ve all gotten angry and it can help to communicate to others that we’re not okay with something. In fact, not having the ability to feel anger is a whole other issue. However, for some people, uncontrollable, overly frequent or inappropriate expressions of anger can damage relationships, career success or more. Shift Psychological can help the anger management process by identifying and treating the origins of the anger – the messages about self and the world that cause it. Then, using our unique approach we remove them. This results in an absence of reaction and an appropriate level of calm.

Anger often stems from feeling so many emotions all at once. You lose a sense of control. You go from 0 to 100 in a blink of an eye. By getting angry you’re attempting to regain control that’s presumed lost. But instead, you’re full of guilt and shame. Feeling angry and reacting in anger, is simply exhausting. I’ll help you learn how to regain control, in a healthy way.

Anger management problems emerge from a social system where both genders are taught that expression of anger is inappropriate. Anger is one of seven basic human emotions and is in no way dangerous, unfeminine, or taboo. Explosive anger typically emerges when people attempt to keep their anger from others, holding it inside until they can no longer contain it. My approach is to model and practice graded expression of anger, and to help people modify the point(s) of view from which anger is seen to emerge.