Anger Management and Counselling in Lions Bay, BC.

Anger is a useful emotion. The feeling of anger makes sense in the perspective of the one who is angry. Anger is an appropriate response to injustice or a reaction to being misjudged. Once we are able to determine the interpretation the client has made of the anger-inducing experience, we determine a concrete response to the triggering experience. Anger does not have to be so loud when its trigger is understood from the client's perspective and the energy redirected to a more authentic response.

Personally, I struggle with the term "anger management". Anger is an important emotion that needs to be viewed through a lens of acceptance not barred to a back room. Until a person understands the myriad of emotions that lie under the surface of 'anger', they are often controlled by these emotions, One of the purposes of anger is to alert the emotional person to the fact that something is wrong (much like pain signals the body when something is wrong). People do need to "control" their behaviour - especially when feelings are strong. i believe that people can learn to manage their life better once they understand what is affecting them AND what they want to accomplish by their action.

Expression of healthy anger is important for emotional well-being. The question frequently asked is "What is the difference between expression of healthy anger/frustration versus hurtful behaviour?" Concepts such as these are dealt with during the counselling session. It is important to help the client understands that repressed anger only leads to further health-related challenges. Opening up through writing and/or compassionate dialogue helps the client learn to mange and process his/her/they emotions in a constructive manner. Graphic organizers depicting Anger Mountain and the 5 Point scale help the client begin to notice when his/her/they emotions are escalating.

In anger management, we start with your story: understanding your concerns, what triggers your anger, and how it's impacting you and your loved ones. Often anger affects relationships, work, or your wellbeing in ways that feel out of control. Together we'll build awareness about the patterns and underlying emotions driving your anger. Sometimes it masks hurt, frustration, or feeling unheard. Then we work on practical strategies: recognizing early warning signs, reframing triggering situations, and developing healthier ways to express feelings. Our therapeutic relationship provides the foundation where you bring knowledge of yourself and I bring clinical perspective. You'll learn to respond rather than react, communicate more effectively, and regain control of your emotions.

If a client comes to me with anger management, I would approach them with curiosity and examine the root cause of the anger. Depending on the source of the anger, I would determine what type of approach to use. For example if the anger was caused by a specific event, if the client agrees, we would explore that specific event in detail, as well as practical strategies to manage the existing anger. Approaches I use are Alderian therapy or EFT for treatment.

As a couples and marriage counsellor, I help partners slow down the negative dance that takes over their relationship. Anger in relationship is often like a suit of armor meant to keep the person safe from feeling underlying pain. I help couples create the safety they need to begin to investigate the pain that lies beneath the shield of anger. The healing is transformative and couples find connections with themselves and each other that restores safety and confidence and brings love back.

I work closely with my clients to become aware of how anger affects them and help identify what their triggers are. We will work together at finding better coping strategies to help them manage their behaviour before it escalates, as well as work through several mindful relaxation techniques to help them achieve inner peace and a greater sense of calm.

Anger is a healthy and normal emotion. It is only when it is acted out in inappropriate ways that it becomes unhealthy and socially "unacceptable". The key to getting a handle on anger is to learn mindful awareness of what you are actually experiencing in the moment - particularly what you are experiencing physically in your body. That moment to moment awareness shows you the truth of your experience and slows your reaction time, giving you a chance to take a breath, evaluate, and assess how you might want to RESPOND, rather than simply REACT, in a given situation. It is equally important to discover underlying anxiety or depression that might be contributing to unwanted anger.

Collaboratively, we will explore the underlying causes of anger and identify triggers within relationships (with self and other). An emphasis on relational strategies can promote effective expression and constructive conflict resolution. We will work on developing emotional intelligence, helping you recognize and understand what is beneath the surface of your anger. It can be useful to explore past experiences that might be contributing to present challenges. Treatment focusses on building healthy connections and increasing self-awareness.

Anger can be all-consuming, it affects our quality of life, and it can damage relationships we care about. When it comes to anger management, I would be most likely to offer support through Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and/or Dialectical Behavioural Therapy. These two related therapeutic approaches use different strategies, from challenging your thinking in order to help you feel better to learning more effective ways of interacting with others. I believe in adjusting my approach in order to meet each client where they are at, because no two people struggling with anger management are the same. I will listen carefully to your story and make a treatment plan accordingly.

If you're finding it difficult to control your anger I can help you by getting to the root of the issue. Underneath anger lies a whole host of emotions that you may not be consciously aware of. In therapy I'll help you dig underneath the surface, identify those emotions and meet the corresponding needs they're associated with. I'll also give you practical tools to calm yourself down when you get triggered and communicate with others in an assertive way that respects both your rights and theirs. I'd be honoured to travel with you on your journey.

At the core of managing anger is insight into your own way of thinking and feeling. I can help you to gain this insight and become free of the burden of anger. You will be able to manage and control your reactions and improve your relationships and sense of self. My anger management approach is effective and focused. I will help you sort through the situations that trigger anger responses and help you gain mastery over them. You will ultimately be able to push beyond simply manging your anger to becoming truly free from its hold on you. Contact me to start making changes today.

Anger management equips individuals with the tools and insights necessary to understand and regulate their anger effectively. A range of techniques are utilized, including cognitive restructuring, relaxation exercises, and assertiveness training, to help clients identify triggers, manage physiological responses, and express emotions constructively. By fostering self-awareness, empathy, and problem-solving skills, counseling empowers individuals to break destructive patterns of behavior, cultivate healthier relationships, and navigate conflicts with greater resilience and composure.

Therapy with me offers a safe, supportive space to understand and manage anger. We'll explore your triggers, build healthy coping tools, and uncover what's beneath the surface. You'll learn to express yourself clearly without losing control, strengthen relationships, and feel more grounded and in control of your emotions.

Contrary to popular belief, anger is a normal and healthy emotion. The challenge is how anger is expressed. Often we feel angry for no apparent reason or our anger is more than the situation warrants - or we do things in anger that are hurtful to ourselves or others. These are things that need to be looked at in counselling. What are the triggers? What other emotions are beneath the anger? How can we control our anger? What are healthy ways of expressing anger? in counselling you will be given the tools to understand and manage these feelings.

Does your anger feel explosive or unmanageable? Are you troubled or overwhelmed by another negative emotion like guilt, shame, fear, or jealousy? Generally speaking, our emotions are healthy and normal, but the way we react to them can cause real problems our lives and relationships. I can share skills to help you understand your emotions, what’s causing them, and how to react to them in a helpful way. When we can work with our emotions, rather than fight against them, we are healthier and happier.

Learning to recognize your anger without acting impulsively is a challenge I can help you with. My approach to anger includes: • Learning to recognize and fully understand your anger triggers • Working with self-esteem—often feelings of shame or self-doubt exacerbate anger problems • Finding ways to express the energy of anger in healthy ways, like assertion rather than aggression, setting boundaries with kind firmness, breath, movement and energetic release • Practices tailored to you, for between sessions to integrate the new healthy ways you are finding in our sessions together

Anger is a strong emotion and when not regulated in a healthy manner, it can impact us in different ways. It can impact the most important relationships in our lives, our work and even how we feel about ourselves. When working with anger, I want my clients to first listen to what anger is trying to tell them. Anger, like any other emotion, has a message for us. It might be trying to tell us something about the pains we have never dealt with, the boundaries in our lives that are being crossed, and the changes that we desire in our lives. Once we learn to your anger and hear it out, we will work on tools to regulate it better and express it constructively without suppressing it.

Anger is often an expression of unhealed loss and pain. I will guide you to finding healthy ways of expressing anger and explore with you the underlying issues which may be fuelling the anger. Often we respond in the way we observed others express anger and other emotions. The important thing to know is that there are other options to use in expressing anger and we will find those ways together.

Anger is ultimately a healthy emotion that can be an adaptive and appropriate response to our circumstances. It can let us know what we need and be a helpful guide in taking positive and proactive actions. Yet, in some cases it can control and motivate us to take actions we regret or that lead to negative consequences. Developing an empowering relationship with anger is a skill that can be learned. In order to do so, our individual contexts need to be considered—our personalities, values, life histories, and underlying psychologies. There is no one size fits all approach. Anger can fulfill different functions in each of our lives.

For every client that I see, I always offer an individualized and tailored approach by draw from a variety of therapeutic approaches in order to enable your mental health healing and functional recovery. Using a collaborative and client centered approach, I will walk alongside you and together, we will explore solutions to overcome anger challenges.

Anger has costs psychologically, physiologically and in personal relationships. There are times when no amount of awareness or will, can calm ones Central Nervous System (CNS). When you find yourself reactive to a trigger, and the limbic system of your brain is fired up making anger seem to come out of nowhere, it is difficult to use reason. By utilizing tools of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Neurofeedback(NFB) or EMDR, I can assist your body and brain to learn to calm the CNS, allowing you to think first, act second.

Anger is a very legitimate and important emotion. We need anger, to help us set boundaries, honour our dignity, and heal from deep wounds. It is an emotion we need to honour within ourselves while finding ways to express it so we don’t hurt ourselves or anyone else. In my practice we start by honouring the anger, even if we don’t understand where it comes from. A lot of our anger is built up inside of us from childhood experiences or life events where we felt helpless and not in control. In therapy we get to the source of the anger and release the emotion safely allowing us to connect to the emotions the anger was being used to cover.

We employ an integrative approach to assist our clients in gaining a deeper understanding of their emotions. Our primary goal is to eliminate the stigma surrounding anger by fostering a compassionate environment that encourages clients to explore the underlying meaning behind their anger. Through our guidance and support, we empower clients to express anger healthily and constructively.

If you're seeking out therapy to help you with anger management, you have likely experienced yourself losing control, only to feel racked with guilt later on. Or, perhaps you simmer with resentment, and your anger comes out in passive aggressive slights. My approach to anger is to explore it fully, so that we can understand its source, and figure out a constructive and healthy way to manage this important emotion. I work collaboratively and actively with my clients to use mindfulness, self-compassion, and emotional awareness to learn about the roots of their anger, and intercept it before it hijacks them.