Anger Management and Counselling in St Marys, ON.

All emotions provide information about how we are experiencing a particular relationship or event. The intensity of our emotions reflects how important this relationship or event is to us. Anger has become associated with aggression and hurtful behaviours, but in reality, anger is an emotion that motivates us to respond. Sessions focus on developing an understanding of where your anger is originating and how it can be expressed and/or resolved.

A.M. is mainly a misnomer: “anger” is a natural emotion and normal response to real or imagined injury/threats. It can support our making and keeping essential personal boundaries. Such anger is usually short-lived. Anger that results in impulsive harmful abusive acts and lasts, is better described as rage. Rage stems from severe early life traumas: extensive abandonment, need deprivation, violence, sexual abuse, chronic chaos, likely combined with individual vulnerability factors. Some programs and self-help may not successfully address rage.Depending on degree of self-awareness, motivation, capacity for self-regulation and taking responsibility, this problem can be helped by psychotherapy

Anger can be a strong emotion. When used in an unproductive way, anger can harm us (i.e. self-criticism, self-injury), and harm our relationships (i.e. blaming, criticism, aggression, inflexibility). However, when this feeling is used in a healthy way, it can give us some important information about boundaries, needs & expectations. It can also help to motivate us to make necessary changes. In therapy, we can work together to get a handle on anger and harness that energy in healthy, helpful ways. If you're wanting to find ways to manage your anger, book a consultation or session with one of our clinicians to get started now! www.kaleidoscopecounsellingco.com

Anger can often feel so overwhelming that it causes you to do things you later regret. Not knowing what came over you, there are many unanswered questions: why do I keep doing this? why can't I stop myself? Sometimes, alcohol, substances, or other addictive behaviours lead to this anger, making it more difficult to control. As an addiction counsellor, I help clients overcome addictions leading to anger issues so they can regain a sense of control, rebuild relationships, and gain clarity about how to move forward. If you are unsure where to start, send me a message and I can help. If I'm not the right fit, I can connect you to the right support so you can start gaining back control, today.

Anger is a natural emotion that everyone experiences and should not be viewed as negative but an essential emotion to understand who you are. When anger starts to impact your life negatively it is typically displayed in the way you manage behaviourally and mentally through situations. In therapy, the individual will determine the triggers for the anger, develop healthy coping mechanisms, and record their successes. In essence turning a lion into a kitten.

When anger and rage is out of control it is important to reach out for support. I help clients with developing a better understanding of anger in order to regain control. Below the surface of anger often exists other unresolved emotions and experiences that we may need help navigating. As we begin to better understand ourselves and the reasons that anger becomes activated, it is possible to develop the skills and self-awareness necessary to feel more calmness. It is possible to learn how to navigate life’s stressful circumstances without the destructive impacts of unmanaged anger.

I have worked in a group setting with men who have power and control issues. I believe in safety in families, and compassion for all. The work starts with taking responsibility for our actions and the effects they have on others. I believe people are capable of change and therapy can be an invitation to growth in responsibility, empathy and behaviour change. I would address the emotional root of the problem and help you understand why anger leads to aggression.

My work with anger management is usually with men. And in my experience, they are usually experiencing covert depression (you are feeling depression, but you express as anger and don't realize that is what you are doing). Men will often use anger as a shield from the shame and stigma that many men feel about sadness. I will work you with on identifying, feeling, processing, and communicating emotions so that we can deal with the real issues under the anger. I'll also provide skills and tools to help you to regulate your emotions.

Anger is a natural emotion for all humans, but we can find ourselves sometimes overwhelmed with more anger than we feel we can handle, where we realize that we are out of balance and cannot seem to control our behaviour. As a therapist, I can support you through this experience, with an approach of compassion and lack of judgment, to understanding the origin of the anger and replacing it with a healthy balance of emotional expression.

After four decades as a therapist, I find anger management is still not fully understood. Yes you need to manage your anger. But it’s early childhood experience which has hurt you - hardened you to avoid, dismiss or shove inside any anger: both the Constructive as well as Destructive types. That becomes a false shortcut - as feeling inside for which is which in the moment is a key to healthy assertion. Balance is what we need. In the model I use for working with anger, you can learn first to shift what tends to happen in a present unhappy situation. We’ll then help you distinguish how your past started that pattern. You’ll be able to balance yourself, both in anger and conflict resolution.

Events in your life do not cause you to be angry. Anger is your response to those events, and I can help you change your response by changing your thinking! I can help you deal better with underlying stress. I can teach you relaxation methods, and I can teach you the techniques of mindfulness to lessen the hold of difficult thoughts and feelings have on you.

Anger is one of those big emotions that can be tricky to navigate, especially when you are in the heat of the moment. Difficulty managing anger can sometimes lead to reactions that are hurtful to those that we care about the most. It is important to know that anger is not a bad emotion to experience, we just want to be mindful of how we communicate our anger to ourselves and to others. I hold a non-judgemental and safe space for you to explore your relationship with anger and assist you in working towards displaying anger in a way that is more in line with your preferred way of being. Contact me today to book a free consultation.

Anger is a normal and important emotion that provides us with clues about emotions, thoughts, experiences, and behaviours that need to be explored and understood. Anger is a secondary emotion which means that there are often softer more vulnerable emotions that lie beneath the experience and expression of anger. In the context of a safe and non-judgemental counselling relationship, you can begin to explore the roots of your anger, understand how your anger has likely acted to protect you in may situations, and learn new strategies and tools to express all emotions, including anger, in a more effective and helpful way.