Anger Management and Counselling in Anmore, BC.

Anger is an emotion that can make you feel out of control or alienate you from others if it is unleashed in volatile ways. Understanding how anger works and learning some anger management skills can help you take a stand and make your point but not at the expense of losing relationships. My approach includes first gaining a clear understanding as to how anger is negatively affecting your life and then providing you both knowledge and skills to positively address your situation.

My approach is to use a step-by-step process that follows an evidence based approach: goal setting; self awareness; cognitive reframing; behavioural modification; review of progress. Fundamental to the work is a good therapeutic relationship. That is, we have the collaboration and trust to combine your knowledge of yourself and your situation and my skills and knowledge of the clinical issues to make change happen.

A response to life's events falls upon a continuum from neutral to highly-reactive. At times anger, Gandhi called it "Righteous Indignation," is necessary to respond to injustices or inappropriate behaviours. However, uncontrolled, inappropriate anger is destructive to one's self and others. Mindfulness and Metta (Loving Kindness) meditations are excellent tools to deal with anger. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) also called Tapping, along with skillful use of affirmations can help to cool the fires of anger. The benefits of anger management lead to a regulating of emotions and thus a gaining of peace of mind, positive relationships, career and family security.

Anger can be misunderstood and therefore experienced as one of the scariest emotions to work with or experience. In our work together we will learn what is underneath your anger, and the function of these emotions in order to support you in learning to unlock more supportive ways of experiencing your emotions and heal from past hurts and therefore heal your relationships.

We employ an integrative approach to assist our clients in gaining a deeper understanding of their emotions. Our primary goal is to eliminate the stigma surrounding anger by fostering a compassionate environment that encourages clients to explore the underlying meaning behind their anger. Through our guidance and support, we empower clients to express anger healthily and constructively.

Anger is a complex issue. Some ancient philosophers thought it could be useful at the right times, others thought it was only useful in the way alcohol was - inebriating us from fear. However, in the highest extent of anger it is generally acknowledged that it can take over, so we do cruel things that we regret later. If anger is useful, it is only in a lesser form that we might call frustration. My hope is that we can learn to understand the underlying parts of the frustration, so it can be a reliable tool that doesn't lead to uncontrollable anger.

My aim will be to help you regain a sense of control of your anger and to transform your anger into a more positive and manageable emotion and ultimately personal growth. Together we will stop, pause and reflect on what it is that is deeply bothering you and where your anger is rooted. Better understanding yourself, your triggers and environment and the factors that serve and do not serve you is one way to also better understanding your anger. This insight can ultimately lead to cultivating a better relationship within yourself and with others.

“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” Ambrose Bierce Anger is often an intense emotional response that can negatively affect people’s lives. Many people struggle to manage and express their anger effectively due to often intense and overwhelming feelings. Families, work, friendships and one’s personal well-being can be destroyed unintentionally along the way. Although we cannot control anger provoking situations, we can learn step by step techniques for successfully and efficiently managing them. Through counselling we will work to access the issues provoking anger and outbursts, and develop tools to identify and effectively manage emotional triggers. When needed, we will also work with families and...(view profile to read more)

Does anger show up in your life more often than you would like? Do you feel like you are walking the line between frustration and explosion. If you answered yes to either of these questions you may be experiencing unmanageable stress in your life. I am a conflcit resolution expert and I have a specific ways to assist you with managing your anger. Call or e-mail me if you would like to deal with anger constructively.

People often confuse anger management with the impossible task of eliminating anger. Anger is a feeling, and, like all feelings, demands to be felt. My favourite line about this is, "Feelings are like sh--. They have to come out eventually." The key to anger management is to feel the anger, recognize it, and find ways to express and release it safely.

There are many approaches to anger management but many of these don't work when you're angry! Being logical about the feeling or trying not to express the feeling rarely works! There are legitimate reasons for anger and the underlying cause must be understood if we are going to manage this complicated emotion. It may be coming up to protect us or to mask something even more difficult. You may notice that anger comes up in certain contexts and perhaps with certain people. If you are willing to do some hard work and face some difficult truths, understanding your anger can turn your life around. When we learn from anger you may be amazed how much better your life can work and feel.

Has losing your temper hurt your relationships with family, friends, and colleagues? Is anger your go-to state when you are overwhelmed, exhausted, and feel misunderstood? Do you often think: it shouldn’t be this hard to be patient and calm, even when you’re frustrated? Anger can bring out the worst in us. It often leads us to make decisions that we regret later causing pain to the people we love and care about the most. ANGER MANAGEMENT THERAPY CAN HELP YOU RECOGNIZE THE EARLY SIGNS OF ANGER SO YOU CAN STOP IT FROM ESCALATING

Anger is a normal healthy human emotion. When people allow it to get out of control it can turn destructive, it can lead to problems at work, personal relationships, and the overall quality of life. I like to think of anger using the metaphore of a hammer. You can do a lot of things with a hammer. You can build things and you can tear things apart. The hammer is just a tool just like anger can be a tool. Anger isn't the problem, it's what you do with it. I help people learn the skills they need to use their anger and the underlying hurt and feelings of injustice to make positive choices that lead to positive relationships and experiences.

Want to control and manage your anger? Want to gain a deeper understanding of the root causes of your anger? Want to channel your anger to more constructive outlets? Many therapists often simply help their clients to control their anger such as timeout, breathing, etc. I use EMDR therapy to help you calm your brain and your nervous system so that your fight response does not get activated automatically. You become a calmer and wiser person who thinks with clarity. I use hypnotherapy to help you gain a deeper understanding of the root causes of your anger. It can also reset your mind and body. Angry no more! Let your calm and beautiful YOU shine! Call 778-548-7345!