Anger Management and Counselling in Clearview, ON.

Anger is an emotion that often comes up when we feel threatened, provoked or feel resentful about painful experiences. It is a normal emotion like any other. Imagine it to be a source of energy, and we need to find the safest way to diffuse, transform and use that energy efficiently. I can help you understand, manage and self-regulate your angry feelings, and that will empower you to better control angry reactions and turn them into solution focused responses.

All human beings feel and express anger, and thus anger itself is not necessarily bad or good. It's a normal emotion which can sometimes be harnessed to motivate us towards our goals. At times, unhelpful thinking patterns make us vulnerable to being triggered into angry behaviors impacting our relationships and well being. There are many useful tools available to help address the causes of anger, helping clients to understand themselves and their motivations better. Better understanding often translates into more control and an increase in emotional regulation.

Together, we will gain insight into the root of your anger and the purpose that it serves in your life. We will empower you to learn more about yourself when you experience anger and decide how you choose to respond to this emotion. I employ an integrative approach in my practice working alongside clients within an empathetic and supportive dynamic.

Anger often comes from a negative place, but for some it is an easy way to express something else that is going on inside. Especially with younger clients, anger management is really about emotion management. With so many emotions it is often difficult to know at a young age how to make sense of everything going on internally. Thus, when I speak with children and youth who are displaying anger, first I seek to discover what it is they are angry about and then help them process the issues and determine if there is really something else they are feeling. Most importantly, I also teach my clients how to recognize different emotions and deal with them effectively.

Being angry when something goes wrong, or somebody annoys you is completely normal. The question is: do you like to feel that way? Sometimes the anger is extraordinarily strong, and it can make you lose control. Do you like the consequences of being angry? - headaches, regrets of words you said, and actions you did? Anger is complicated and it often has deep roots. For this reason, it can be difficult to “just control it”. My experience of working with jail inmates shows that digging deeper into the past can help to find connections between trigger events and such strong reactions. When you have better understanding of your anger, the reaction can change and no strong control will be needed.

Anger can be upsetting not only for the one receiving it but also for the one expressing it. Although we can believe that someone "makes" us angry it is usually our own trigger that fires off. We express anger not just because we feel we have a right to be angry but because we use anger as a way of self protection. It says "back off and leave me alone." Understanding your angry pain can free you from it's grip. I have helped many clients with this difficulty through Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and inner child approaches that have proven to be successful in the treatment of anger.

In Anger Management counselling, I help clients identify the underlying causes of their anger and develop healthier ways to express and manage it. Using techniques such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Emotional Regulation strategies, and relaxation exercises, we work together to recognize triggers, change negative thought patterns, and create more constructive responses. My approach emphasizes self-awareness, personal responsibility, and improved communication skills, empowering clients to manage their emotions more effectively, reduce conflicts, and create more positive, fulfilling relationships.

Anger is often a secondary feeling and it is important to learn to identify and process the underlying feelings. As a primary feeling anger helps us know when something isn't right and is the energy behind setting appropriate boundaries and enacting change. Our therapists are trained to support you in learning to identify and process anger in a healthy way that improves your relationships and emotional health.

: We all have a right to feel and express our anger and yet sometimes anger can alienate us from the things we care about most, such as friends and family. We can also often feel judged because of the way we express our anger and this can make it harder to manage. In my work with individuals who experience anger, I provide a safe, supportive and non-judgmental space to begin to understand anger and learn new ways of expressing it. Reach out today to schedule a free 15-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit.

Anger has a lot to do with repressed fear. If we don't allow fear to be released we tend to take our anger out on the people closest to us. Certain situations will trigger us if we don't know how to control our anger if we aren't dealing with underlying issues. Often if we are not consciously working on dealing with managing our anger it doesn't just go away by itself. Simply having someone to talk to and listen to us helps alleviate a lot of our understanding about why we are angry. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is a very beneficial modality to consciously put anger in check. Having a safe environment to share your thoughts and let go of your feelings is another way to release anger.

Counselling for anger includes assessment, psycho-education around anger, discussing anger styles, identifying triggers and provocations, discussing family of origin issues relating to anger expression, and practising relaxation techniques and coping skills to control anger and manage behaviour. Court mandated anger management courses are one hour sessions for 8-10 weeks.

The aim of addressing anger is to help individuals understand the meaning of why this emotion is particualry showing up for them. I do not view anger as a 'bad'emotion but rather one to be curious about the message that it is trying to deliver. Our work together may look like learning to recognise triggers,examining problematic thought patterns and exploring healthier responses verbally, behaviourally and physiologically. and effectively manage their anger responses.

Understanding the roots of your anger can go a long way to empowering you to respond in ways that best suit the situation, leaving you feeling satisfied and content, rather than reacting in ways that feel the most relieving in that moment but leave you regretting your behavior, long after the event. I can help you learn to express your feelings more appropriately and take back the power that anger has had over you in the past.