Great Couples Counselling in London, ON. Therapy to heal relationships.

Couples therapy is not just for times of trouble, it is also important for building a strong foundation to an already strong relationship. Our couples therapists focus on learning about your unique relationship and what each of you bring to the table. We tailor this process to what your relationships needs, which could be healing from a trauma, infidelity, loss, and/or life stress. We are here to help and to support your relationship.

We all long for connection. Many of us feel great in the times when a relationship is new and the connection is just developing. The problems come when we have to repair distance/rifts in that connection, or when we need to sustain and deepen our connection to our partners. Maybe we never learned how. Maybe we carry scars and trauma from past relationships. Maybe we have patterns in our histories that we never really dealt with. Maybe all of the above. Our work together will take all of that into account and in a non-judgmental environment, we will hold space for you both to learn how to repair, strengthen and maintain your most important relationships.

Friend, lover, husband, wife, partner, intimate co-creator / intimate enemy: the options of what way couple therapy can help are many. I have over 40 years experience with couples of every variety (straight, lesbian, gay, swingers and so on) and have always found the balance both within each person as well as between the partners as key. Couples - even when in Big Time Conflict - can learn what other choices they have: as individuals and as a working team. The balancing of power between self and one’s partner is the key learning that is often needed. Inevitably both people have areas of esteem - but also areas of vulnerability. It takes risking, but change and healing are possible.

As a therapist, I work primarily from an attachment perspective with individuals and couples. My training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) allows me to provide evidence-based interventions to support both individual clients and couples to create lasting change in their lives. **EFT Externship, EFT Core Skills, EFiT (Individual EFT Therapy), Applying Polyvagal to EFT In individual therapy, this type of therapy is an attachment process (the formation of safe connections) between the therapist and the client, as well as between the client and previous and current relationships; and in Couples Therapy, within and between the couple, where your relationship is my client.

At Talking Works, we use the proven framework of emotion focused therapy (EFT) to create lasting change by emphasising emotional awareness and processing to help you better understand, regulate, and share your emotions. EFT focuses on creating a secure and loving attachment between you and your partner to help you communicate your needs and desires in a way that fosters deeper intimacy and connection.

Just as J.F.K. said: "Ask not what you can get form your country, but what you can GIVE to your country", so is a couple's relationship. It is not what we can get from our partner, but how do we learn to love them and care for them in a way that makes us feel good, dignified and respectable. Love may not have much to do with this: do we LIKE each other? How do we co-create a safe heaven, a secure base in which we feel nurtured, liked, respected and protected, yet free to be who we really are? What kind of communication is most effective? Adela has been working with couples for over 10 years. Her creativity and passion for good, healthy satisfying relationships can be contagious,

I aim to help couples and relational partnerships uncover the root causes of their disagreements and conflicts, and collaborative work together to find solutions. I also believe couples can get buried under society’s pressure of a perfect relationship; I hope to help you get closer to the relationship that feels the most authentic and real for you as a partnership. I use Emotion-Focused and Solution Focused Therapy to help couple’s highlight their unique strengths and work toward a better understanding of one another. Book a free consultation to explore if we are a good fit.

Over time we fall into communication patterns with our partners. Those patterns become most evident when we are stressed, as we can default to ways of relating to each other that doesn't serve us or our relationship. Learning to build new patterns of communication, more supportive and more connected communication patterns, can promote a healthier relationship, a deeper sense of connection and joy, and a more hopeful future.

It is known by many that relationships are not always easy to manage as they require dedication and commitment from each partner. I assist couples during counselling to learn skills to communicate more effectively, resolve their issues in a safe environment, strengthen their emotional connection, and learn strategies to preserve healthier relationships.

Nothing is as rewarding or satisfying as a healthy, loving, intimate relationship and nothing is as damaging and destructive as an intimate relationship gone wrong. I offer premarriage counselling and I help heterosexual couples of all ages strengthen their relationship and increase trust. I also help couples repair and renew trust when it has been broken. While communication is important, trust is the most vital component to a healthy relationship. While my approach is eclectic.

Relationships can be hard but they do not have to be. Our couple's therapists work with the couples to identify problem areas, debunk, assumptions, and learn how to effectively communicate. Your therapist will help you to express your feelings in a respectively way, discuss issues, and resolve conflicts that are occurring. Couple's therapy aims to increase respect, affection, understanding, and intimacy between you and your partner. Our therapists stay neutral and focus on the couple as a unit rather than individually someone being "right" and someone being "wrong".

Any long-term relationship is bound to experience periods of challenge along with times joy. Particularly in today's world, couples are facing a number of increasing complexities as they attempt to navigate family, career, and individual challenges. I provide inclusive counselling for couples of all backgrounds. I facilitate counselling from an attachment-based perspective, focusing on the reparation of intimacy by helping couples to navigate and identify deeper, core issues that contribute to breakdowns in communication and connection. As part of my work with couples, I value fairness, openness, compassion, and equality.

I have completed Level 1 Gottman Method Couples Therapy, based in over 35 years of research! I have also completed Gottman advanced training in trauma and infidelity. I provide a thorough couple assessment to identify strengths and issues, as well as interventions to improve conflict management, friendship, and shared meaning. You will both feel fully supported. Please visit my website for more information at www.MSWtherapist.com.