"The most authentic thing about us is our
capacity to create,
to overcome, to endure, to transform, to love
and to be greater than our suffering."
Welcome, I'm Helen....
Please note: Appointments given within one week.
Sometimes it is hard to reach out
but if we can find the courage, it can change our lives.
From counselling and psychotherapy
with many individuals over twenty years, I have come to steadfastly believe
that everyone has more wisdom for getting through a difficult time than they
generally realize. I offer a strength based approach to psychotherapy. Core to
my practice is learning mindful self-compassion practices to support yourself
more deeply as you heal, learn, grow and (re)gain a sense of wholeness.
I work with your individual beliefs,
values, goals, spirituality, hopes, through practical, in depth psychotherapy
My steadfast commitment is to give you a compassionate,
gentle space for discovering your strengths, wisdom and healing.
Your first consultation will assess
your particular situation and determine the type of support and psychotherapy
that may work best for you. I will make appropriate referrals as necessary if
further medical or clinical assessment is needed or different therapy
modalities would fit your needs better.
Together, we (re)discover your
wholeness and strengths for a life that feels purposeful, meaningful, balanced
Some of the reasons that people come
to my practice are:
- Healing from trauma (includes EMDR therapy)
- Anxiety & depression
- Mindfulness & self-compassion practices
- Chronic illness, cancer support, recovery from illness to wellness
- Searching for deeper meaning & purpose
- Bereavement, grief and loss
- Front-line crisis/trauma/vicarious
- Workplace stress
- Communication skills for the difficult conversations in relationships (personal/work)
- Parenting challenges, post-partum depression
- Spiritual crisis/spiritual well-being (see video below)
Why I studied 'wisdom' in my
In my clinical practice in health
care I have had the tremendous privilege to walk beside many, many individuals
and families through cancer, bereavement, trauma, crisis, depression, anxiety,
complex grief, post traumatic stress, hopelessness, searching for meaning
living with chronic illness and through other acutely difficult life
experiences such as job loss, divorce, or unplanned career transitions. The
participants in the study also believed we need "wisdom dialogue" to
help us through. They
Wisdom is gained
on the journey
you did not want
on the road
without a map
(Butlin, 2018, Searching for Wisdom: Perspectives of women
living with ovarian cancer after participation in a supportive care group)
person has affirmed my conviction that we all have a depth of inner wisdom to
find a way through anything, if we keep a focus on the tiny steps that we can
manage and get the right support.
I will support you with guided
practices and skills to discover your own unique wisdom, small steps for change,
and ways to create that feeling of hope… in your own way.
You might want to explore more about finding your wisdom in my monthly blog on Finding Wisdom that uses my research on wisdom and makes it applicable to our daily lives. Link here: https://helenjbutlin.com/finding-wisdom/ (cut and paste into your browser).
Focusing on your own personal
healing & growth IS impactful parenting.
For the parents
reading this - as a mother of two children I understand intimately the juggle
of life and parenting and know that my personal therapy work has radically
changed my approach as a parent.
A gift you give to them can be to
support yourself with guidance from someone outside your family system in
personal therapy. It will pay forward to your kids as well. Parent guilt can be
insidiously draining on your self-esteem, co-parenting relationship and
resilience. Ditching the guilt or feelings of inadequacy can be the biggest
change to tackling genuine problems creatively and wisely.
Thank you for taking the time to
read this introduction to my practice. I can honestly say that each person I've
had the privilege of supporting has taught me something new about the ways life
will hone our wisdom for living through hard times and how we can even gain
strength and compassion through them.
If you're interested in a session
please contact me using the "Let's Connect" button on this Theravive
listing. I will respond within 24 hours Mon - Sat unless my listing states I'm
away. Fees are priced for affordability
and you can submit receipts to insurance companies. You may want to call your
insurance carrier to ask if they cover Registered Psychotherapists ahead of time.
There is a sliding scale for low
income households and special needs accommodation for accessibility.
I look forward to meeting with you if you are would like to reach out.
This video is from the 2012
SouthWestern Ontario Regional Supportive Care Conference (my name then was