most authentic thing about us is our capacity to create, to overcome,
to endure, to transform, to love and to be greater than our suffering."
Welcome, I'm Helen....
Sometimes it is hard to reach out but if we can find the courage, it can change our lives.
From counselling and psychotherapy with many individuals over twenty years, I have come to steadfastly believe that everyone has more wisdom for getting through a difficult time than they generally realize.
consultation will assess your particular situation and determine the
type of support and psychotherapy that may work best for you. I will
make appropriate referrals as necessary if further medical or clinical
assessment is needed or different therapy modalities would fit your needs better.
Loss, illness, trauma, grief can be integrated into strength and wisdom but it's not easy and there is no clear map. We rarely find our inner resources alone because so often, we are hardest on ourselves.
My hand is extended to you if you need support
I offer a steadfast commitment to create a compassionate space for each client. I work with individual beliefs, values, goals, spirituality, hopes, through practical, in depth psychotherapy and counselling.
Together, we (re)discover your wholeness and strengths for a life that feels purposeful, meaningful, balanced and life-giving.
Why I studied 'wisdom' in my doctoral research...
my clinical practice in health care I have had the tremendous privilege
to walk beside hundreds of individuals and families through cancer,
bereavement, trauma, crisis, depression, anxiety, complex grief, post
traumatic stress, hopelessness, searching for meaning living with
chronic illness and through other acutely difficult life experiences
such as job loss, divorce, or unplanned career transitions.
person has affirmed my conviction that we all have a depth of inner wisdom to find a
way through anything, if we keep a focus on the tiny steps that we can manage and get the right support.
fact, I was so compelled by my patients' cultivation of real, practical
and meaningful life wisdom discovered in the midst of awful situations
in their lives that I conducted doctoral research on wisdom with women
who were living with the acutely difficult diagnosis of ovarian cancer.
Beth, Carrie, and Denise (pseudonyms)
contributed such moving insights to the study that they can give you or I
great hope that no matter what we face, we can find a way to live each
day and focus on what gives meaning, hope and purpose....
even when it seems impossible.
But again, they also emphasize, we can't do this alone.
is relationships of support and "wisdom conversations" as Denise put
it, "small steps" and "making plans", as Carrie said, and "creating that
feeling of hope" as Beth emphasized, that are all critical ingredients
to finding our way through difficulty. My therapy practice focuses on
each client finding their own wisdom, small steps, and ways to create
that feeling of hope… in their own way.
A way is there to be found and we discover it together.
But what is wisdom? Research shows that wisdom is practical, intuitive, self-compassionate, resilient, empathic, skilled and gives us a way to navigate uncertainty, loss, difficult crossroads and physical, mental, emotional, spiritual suffering. Wisdom helps us live through the paradoxes in life including our mortality, radical vulnerability in relationships and worst fears.
However, I have also learned, both personally and
professionally, that rarely do we find our strengths, solutions or
wisdom, alone. In my own life, it has been finding wise guides in
friends, mentors and skilled therapists at the right time that has made
the crucial difference.
My research study can be found at this link (cut and paste it into your browser) in case you're interested in reading further:
For front-line practitioners or a high stress work life
As a Certified Compassion Fatigue, Burnout and Vicarious Trauma Therapist I also offer therapy for front line workers who are exposed to
high volumes of human suffering and trauma as part of daily life. I've
experienced these states myself and understand how difficult it can be.
It can sneak up on you and the crash happens typically when both a work
situation and personal grief have collided. For front line practitioners
I have developed a robust tool kit developed in wellness programs for
oncology doctors, radiation therapists, allied health practitioners,
nurses and leaders for recovery and sustaining resiliency and mental,
emotional, physical and spiritual health on the front lines.
Focusing on your own personal healing & growth IS impactful parenting.
a last note, for the parents reading this - as a mother of two children
I understand intimately the juggle of life and parenting and know that
my personal therapy work has radically changed my approach as a parent.
A gift you give to them can be to support yourself with guidance from
someone outside your family system in personal therapy. It will pay
forward to your kids as well. Parent guilt can be insidiously draining
on your self-esteem, co-parenting relationship and resilience. Ditching
the guilt or feelings of inadequacy can be the biggest change to
tackling genuine problems creatively and wisely.
you for taking the time to read this introduction to my practice. I can
honestly say that each person I've had the privilege of supporting has
taught me something new about how to deepen our strengths and
resilience, hone our life wisdom for living through hard times, and to
not sweat the small stuff!
You can learn a little more about my past work in oncology in the YouTube below (scroll down to the bottom) given at a Regional Supportive Care Conference in London, Ontario for health care practitioners. It gives insight into the nature of 'spiritual distress' which can manifest with depression, anxiety, hopelessness not only in those living with illness but in all of our lives during difficult times.
you're interested in a 50 minute consultation session please email using the "Let's Connect" button on my Theravive listing. I will
respond within 24 hours Mon - Sat unless my listing states I'm away.
fees are priced to be accessible and you can submit receipts to
insurance companies. I do offer a sliding scale for low income
households and special needs accommodation.
I look forward to meeting with you if you are would like to reach out.
some, spirituality is a source of meaning and it is important to them
that this is part of the conversation in therapy. As a certified
Spiritual Care Practitioner (CASC), I will honour your personal beliefs
and values and have supported people from many different faith and
wisdom traditions. If this is important to you, we will integrate your
spiritual well-being into the process. However, spiritual values are not
a requirement to benefit from our work together.
Helen Butlin ReachesLondon ON